"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Demonstrating a Sexual Intent

guittarjedi

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A big piece missing from my game is being able to demonstrate a sexual intent without making the girl think that I am only interested in sex. The girl I'm currently gaming is a 9 who gets hit on constantly and is being stalked by a guy she recently gave her number to so her gaurd is up. How do I make sure that she sees me as a sexual man without offending her?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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do not be afraid of your sexuality, and do not be afraid to express it, oh and do not be embarsed to talk about it.
 

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Yep... don't be afraid of your sexuality. If a woman likes you she isn't going to turn down your advances. You'll offend her if you don't make a move.

As long as you don't stalk (ie. act insecure / jealuous / and wacked all in one) her then her other situation has nothing to do with you.
 

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Thanks guys. This is an area that I'm realizing more and more that I'm absolutely cluless about. What kinds of sexual things should I say early on in the relationship? What kinds of things should I avoid saying and doing? What would be considered crossing the line? Is there a line?
 
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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Maverick001

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guittarjedi,

This is an intriguing question that you've posed to the forum.

I don't think the link in squirrels' reply, for the article on Casual Sex addresses the matter entirely because where do those women who are f#ck buddies fall into the spectrum? Other posts talk about FB's so I won't do that here.

In my opinion, a man's entire demeanour (his attitude and how he conducts himself) communicates and projects sexual intent.

If you're comfortable with being a sexual being and you're masculinity inside and outside are inline (meaning synchronous or congruent) then the rest of the world will see that comfort and accept it too.

No woman who's interested in you will reject your sexual advances. I totally agree with what the other DJ's have said about this in responding to your question.

As far as how far and how fast you should take it is entirely up to you. Follow your instinct and don't care about making mistakes. It's better to be chastised for being bold and courageous (i.e. a man) than it is to be thought of as being less of a man for not taking a chance.

Cheers,
Mav
 
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