"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Delusional Inner Game?

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JustLurk said:
Isn't this delusional self-confidence as well? And yet it is good advice, right?
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No. This isn't delusional self confidence. Assuming a girl is attracted to you before knowing either way is simply being optimistic..You have no reason to believe that she's NOT interested, so why not just assume that she IS interested?

It would only be delusional self confidence if you had good reasons to believe she was NOT interested, but you acted like she was/is interested. And any sort of delusion is bad because it isn't what reality is telling you.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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JLW said:
No. This isn't delusional self confidence. Assuming a girl is attracted to you before knowing either way is simply being optimistic..You have no reason to believe that she's NOT interested, so why not just assume that she IS interested?

It would only be delusional self confidence if you had good reasons to believe she was NOT interested, but you acted like she was/is interested. And any sort of delusion is bad because it isn't what reality is telling you.
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Perhaps I was unclear by describing this frame I am asking your opinions about. The frame is
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My frame
NEVER COMPROMISE
Assume I am the s*it.
Don't give a flying **** if anyone thinks otherwise
Stop caring about how anyone thinks of you
Because I tried this and basically everyone treated me like how I treated myself. And then I fell out of frame because I started thinking about that.
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Anyway, I meant something like this, not delusional thinking that everyone loves you, more like the mindset that everyone loves you and if they don't they're just missing out. Except being so confident in this it seems delusional. Does DJ theory (Lol) and your opinions think this is an optimal state? Or is it too much?
 
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