"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Greatzinc4 said:find another guy you like and quit being a drama queen...you will be fine
Anything else that I can do to work on myself? Seems like you don't understand the nature of this post
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Iceberg
Master Don Juan
888 said:This is absolutely not the place for this kind of advice. It isn't the kind of stuff we talk about here.
inb4 flood of guys trying to run game on OP
Actually, it will be a flood of guys trying to insult the girl. Because she's a woman and they're angry at the entire gender.
But with that said, I don't believe this story. Or that the person who wrote it is actually a girl.
As if a girl in a bad situation says, "I know where I'll find help! On an all-men's forum!"
Iceberg said:Actually, it will be a flood of guys trying to insult the girl. Because she's a woman and they're angry at the entire gender.
But with that said, I don't believe this story. Or that the person who wrote it is actually a girl.
As if a girl in a bad situation says, "I know where I'll find help! On an all-men's forum!"
ugh you're right. never mind.
BeDJ
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I put my hands over my head sitting in the shower and rock back and forth. I wipe the imaginary mascara off my eyes and stick my finger down my throat to make sure all the imaginary semen is gone. I stand up and spread my ass cheeks to make sure it's clean from the imaginary rapists curn. After, I then make a thread claiming all men are animals while my frozen burrito thaws.
BeginningDJ said:Do what I do sometimes:
I put my hands over my head sitting in the shower and rock back and forth. I wipe the imaginary mascara off my eyes and stick my finger down my throat to make sure all the imaginary semen is gone. I stand up and spread my ass cheeks to make sure it's clean from the imaginary rapists curn. After, I then make a thread claiming all men are animals while my frozen burrito thaws.
I guess you got raped by an imaginary old man :crackup:
This thread is DONE
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.