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Senior Don Juan
whatever dude, i'm dating 3 girls because of myspace
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
PowertripII said:You guys should just look at Myspace as a way to market yourself.
-Don't post pics of you with every girl you've ever seen
-Don't give out tons of info; maybe a job title and some hobbies
-Sorry to guy above but posting pics of yourself flexing is.. well, kinda lame.
-Don't have a bunch of crappy (tacky) musical add-on's and things floating on your page
-DO post pics of you out and about with friends
-DO have a family shot in there somewhere
-DO have a pic with a chick or two (pick the best)
-DO check your spelling and grammar
The idea here is that if you give a girl your name, it's almost guaranteed that she'll look you up before a date. You want to convey a fun, friendly and interesting angle, not that of some roid-monkey bent on conquering the world with his thug friends- sure, you might think that's cool but I guarantee some MBA grad HB10 won't. You want to look like you're approachable (remember, someone may be checking out local profiles and just happen to run into you in person) and you want to create depth by limiting the information, not expanding on it!
This is one of the few times that you completely control the stage on which you appear. Make it a good one!
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
LMFAO. This is total bull****.n00bPimp said:Myspace nowadays is as common as a cellphone, and if you dont have one people will think you're different, but not in a good way. You will be seen as some1 who doesnt have that many friends.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
penguin said:I hate the old "i use it to keep in contact with friends" excuse. No, you're using it for attention. Friends have your e-mail address and phone number if they want to contact you, and you have theirs.
Thanks!Embrace said:
Good stuff man
My email is never used for contacting friends, and my cell phone had been shut off for three months previously, therefore, myspace is the easy answer. Don't be that guy who acts like an old man talking about "back in my day" and trying to tell US how WE use OUR myspaces, even if we already know what we do with them. That's just gay.penguin said:I hate the old "i use it to keep in contact with friends" excuse. No, you're using it for attention. Friends have your e-mail address and phone number if they want to contact you, and you have theirs.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.