T Money
Senior Don Juan
whatever dude, i'm dating 3 girls because of myspace
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
PowertripII said:You guys should just look at Myspace as a way to market yourself.
-Don't post pics of you with every girl you've ever seen
-Don't give out tons of info; maybe a job title and some hobbies
-Sorry to guy above but posting pics of yourself flexing is.. well, kinda lame.
-Don't have a bunch of crappy (tacky) musical add-on's and things floating on your page
-DO post pics of you out and about with friends
-DO have a family shot in there somewhere
-DO have a pic with a chick or two (pick the best)
-DO check your spelling and grammar
The idea here is that if you give a girl your name, it's almost guaranteed that she'll look you up before a date. You want to convey a fun, friendly and interesting angle, not that of some roid-monkey bent on conquering the world with his thug friends- sure, you might think that's cool but I guarantee some MBA grad HB10 won't. You want to look like you're approachable (remember, someone may be checking out local profiles and just happen to run into you in person) and you want to create depth by limiting the information, not expanding on it!
This is one of the few times that you completely control the stage on which you appear. Make it a good one!
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
LMFAO. This is total bull****.n00bPimp said:Myspace nowadays is as common as a cellphone, and if you dont have one people will think you're different, but not in a good way. You will be seen as some1 who doesnt have that many friends.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
penguin said:I hate the old "i use it to keep in contact with friends" excuse. No, you're using it for attention. Friends have your e-mail address and phone number if they want to contact you, and you have theirs.
Thanks!Embrace said:
Good stuff man
My email is never used for contacting friends, and my cell phone had been shut off for three months previously, therefore, myspace is the easy answer. Don't be that guy who acts like an old man talking about "back in my day" and trying to tell US how WE use OUR myspaces, even if we already know what we do with them. That's just gay.penguin said:I hate the old "i use it to keep in contact with friends" excuse. No, you're using it for attention. Friends have your e-mail address and phone number if they want to contact you, and you have theirs.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.