SamTheHobit
Master Don Juan
Is a degree even worth it, or should i go straight into the work world and gain experience?
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I think the other guys already covered this, but I'll repeat it in my own words.SamTheHobit said:Thanx @ mr positive and synergy very helpful and informative posts! I have no idea what I plan on doing, thinking on going in the bussiness direction. But hey life will take me where it chooses fit.
Degree (on average) are worth it. There's tons of real data supporting that (use Google). But what I suggest is do it affordably.SamTheHobit said:Is a degree even worth it, or should i go straight into the work world and gain experience?
agreed. In my field, there is no harm taking the credits for early engineering coursework than transferring for the core classes - you save a ton and get the same degree. I would advocate this to anyone seeking a degree in a technical field.azanon said:Degree (on average) are worth it. There's tons of real data supporting that (use Google). But what I suggest is do it affordably.
Universities/Colleges are charging way too much these days, and many employers don't care where you got your degree from. The cheap way is to get the basics out of the way at a junior college, then transfer those into a cheap state college, and minimize/avoid debt in the process.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.