SamTheHobit
Master Don Juan
Is a degree even worth it, or should i go straight into the work world and gain experience?
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I think the other guys already covered this, but I'll repeat it in my own words.SamTheHobit said:Thanx @ mr positive and synergy very helpful and informative posts! I have no idea what I plan on doing, thinking on going in the bussiness direction. But hey life will take me where it chooses fit.
Degree (on average) are worth it. There's tons of real data supporting that (use Google). But what I suggest is do it affordably.SamTheHobit said:Is a degree even worth it, or should i go straight into the work world and gain experience?
agreed. In my field, there is no harm taking the credits for early engineering coursework than transferring for the core classes - you save a ton and get the same degree. I would advocate this to anyone seeking a degree in a technical field.azanon said:Degree (on average) are worth it. There's tons of real data supporting that (use Google). But what I suggest is do it affordably.
Universities/Colleges are charging way too much these days, and many employers don't care where you got your degree from. The cheap way is to get the basics out of the way at a junior college, then transfer those into a cheap state college, and minimize/avoid debt in the process.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.