SamTheHobit
Master Don Juan
Is a degree even worth it, or should i go straight into the work world and gain experience?
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I think the other guys already covered this, but I'll repeat it in my own words.SamTheHobit said:Thanx @ mr positive and synergy very helpful and informative posts! I have no idea what I plan on doing, thinking on going in the bussiness direction. But hey life will take me where it chooses fit.
Degree (on average) are worth it. There's tons of real data supporting that (use Google). But what I suggest is do it affordably.SamTheHobit said:Is a degree even worth it, or should i go straight into the work world and gain experience?
agreed. In my field, there is no harm taking the credits for early engineering coursework than transferring for the core classes - you save a ton and get the same degree. I would advocate this to anyone seeking a degree in a technical field.azanon said:Degree (on average) are worth it. There's tons of real data supporting that (use Google). But what I suggest is do it affordably.
Universities/Colleges are charging way too much these days, and many employers don't care where you got your degree from. The cheap way is to get the basics out of the way at a junior college, then transfer those into a cheap state college, and minimize/avoid debt in the process.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.