"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
default line to use when i cant think of anything
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
yunghova35
Don Juan
Saying "hi" alwasy works, but you also can use the "I wanted to find out what you were like"
Your mind is in the wrong FRAME, You have to realize its not about a LINE, your not trying to do the impossible, all your doing is having a conversation with a woman (much like you would with your sister, aunt whoever) the only thing you should internally think is… “do I want to continue this further, is she worth MY time”
Like that one about the alphas on an island that you have also posted on other forums all together.. wtf man?
Now you are asking for a default line? You sound like a robot, infact i think u might just be some kind of bot. A girly afc type bot.
Come on man get a new patch or something and upgrade your self.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
squirrels
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If you have nothing to say, don't speak.
If you find you ALWAYS end up having nothing to say, you need to develop some social skills. "Small talk" isn't always something that comes naturally...it's an acquired skill, even if it IS filler.
Any kind of generic, catch-all default line is instantly recognizable as just that.
platinumike
Don Juan
spukee
Don Juan
"Hi," and it's many MANY variations are definetly the way to go though... I don't know why anyone would adamantly oppose a standard greeting. It shows friendliness, and a desire to converse - that's pretty much what you want, yeah?
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.