Declining interest after 2nd date?

[the_stig]

Went on a first date with a Cambodian girl last week - very cute and not corrupted by Western culture - kiss closed. She made her interest very clear over the last week. Immediately deleted her Tinder because she just wanted to date me. Always initiates contact.

Had our second date this afternoon. She was affectionate, cuddly and flirty, told me very personal life details, sexual talk about what we liked in the bedroom, etc. Date last three hours, not too long, not too short. Last thing she asked before getting into her car "Do you like having sex in crazy places?", and proceeds to tell me where she's done it. I said "We'll make a list of crazy places to have sex" kissed her, and walked away.

She texts "I had a great time today. Thanks!" soon as she got home. Problem is, tonight her texts were noticeably shorter and not as enthusiastic. My spider sense says classic IL decline. But I tend to overanalyze.

Thoughts on this one?

 

[hudpes]

Get really busy (a date with someone else, go out with friends, work, study, sports), be silent, have minimum contact, don't ask for a date, for at least a week. Sometimes girls just need to sort things out in their head, and catch up with what's going on.

 

[Harry Wilmington]

Went on a first date with a Cambodian girl last week - very cute and not corrupted by Western culture - kiss closed. She made her interest very clear over the last week. Immediately deleted her Tinder because she just wanted to date me. Always initiates contact.

Had our second date this afternoon. She was affectionate, cuddly and flirty, told me very personal life details, sexual talk about what we liked in the bedroom, etc. Date last three hours, not too long, not too short. Last thing she asked before getting into her car "Do you like having sex in crazy places?", and proceeds to tell me where she's done it. I said "We'll make a list of crazy places to have sex" kissed her, and walked away.

She texts "I had a great time today. Thanks!" soon as she got home. Problem is, tonight her texts were noticeably shorter and not as enthusiastic. My spider sense says classic IL decline. But I tend to overanalyze.

Thoughts on this one?

Yeah, here are my thoughts: WHY WOULD YOU BE IN CONTACT WITH HER IMMEDIATELY AFTER A DATE?

That's where you're messing up, my friend. You should have only been contacting her to set up dates - all this texting/messaging in between dates will cause her to lose interest. Why? Too much of you too soon - in the beginning you should be spoon-feeding yourself to these girls. Soon as she sent you that "I had a great time today" text, you should have replied "You're welcome, enjoy the rest of your day" then left her alone for the next few days, THEN hit her up and asked her for another date or waited until she hit YOU up with a text first.

My synopsis? You haven't messed this thing up yet, but take her unenthusiastic texts (whatever that is) as a sign that she doesn't need to hear from you so much in between dates, especially after she spent 3 hours with you already. It's only your 2nd date so far, and you are NOT yet the boyfriend, so don't do things that play into that role yet like hitting her up all the time, taking her out on dates that are waaaay too long (3 hours, seriously??), or expressing your feelings to her verbally. Hope this helps!

 

[sylvester the cat]

Her: Do you like having sex in crazy places?
Me: Not sure. Let's find out. (Followed by pushing her into her car and extreme kino)

Not corrupted by Western culture? Yeah right. You found a unicorn on Tinder.

 

[the_stig]

Yeah, here are my thoughts: WHY WOULD YOU BE IN CONTACT WITH HER IMMEDIATELY AFTER A DATE?

That's where you're messing up, my friend. You should have only been contacting her to set up dates - all this texting/messaging in between dates will cause her to lose interest. Why? Too much of you too soon - in the beginning you should be spoon-feeding yourself to these girls. Soon as she sent you that "I had a great time today" text, you should have replied "You're welcome, enjoy the rest of your day" then left her alone for the next few days, THEN hit her up and asked her for another date or waited until she hit YOU up with a text first.

My synopsis? You haven't messed this thing up yet, but take her unenthusiastic texts (whatever that is) as a sign that she doesn't need to hear from you so much in between dates, especially after she spent 3 hours with you already. It's only your 2nd date so far, and you are NOT yet the boyfriend, so don't do things that play into that role yet like hitting her up all the time, taking her out on dates that are waaaay too long (3 hours, seriously??), or expressing your feelings to her verbally. Hope this helps!

Thanks Harry! I will definitely make myself scarcer after today.

I should add that she has initiated literally every communication between us, I just sit back and reply (not always immediately either).

Normally I follow the "text for setting up dates only" rule but we click over text, our conversations have been always playful, very fun, and clearly built some serious rapport and raised her interest level daily. Tuesday she basically asked my permission to see a guy friend, and Wednesday said she only intended to date me (and went on to say how well she'll treat me, be loyal, etc).

^^ That being said.. I'm still pulling back, don't worry

 

[pyros]

Went on a first date with a Cambodian girl last week - very cute and not corrupted by Western culture - kiss closed. She made her interest very clear over the last week. Immediately deleted her Tinder because she just wanted to date me. Always initiates contact.

Had our second date this afternoon. She was affectionate, cuddly and flirty, told me very personal life details, sexual talk about what we liked in the bedroom, etc. Date last three hours, not too long, not too short. Last thing she asked before getting into her car "Do you like having sex in crazy places?", and proceeds to tell me where she's done it. I said "We'll make a list of crazy places to have sex" kissed her, and walked away.

She texts "I had a great time today. Thanks!" soon as she got home. Problem is, tonight her texts were noticeably shorter and not as enthusiastic. My spider sense says classic IL decline. But I tend to overanalyze.

Thoughts on this one?

call me crazy but I think she just wanted to **** you right there you silly.

 

[bukowski_merit]

call me crazy but I think she just wanted to **** you right there you silly.

This.


To add: I have decent experience with a variety of asian women...
Cambodian women - are not anywhere close to being known as "good girls"...
They are good illusionist and dream sellers though.... Just like every other woman.

 

[zinc4]

Dude....I just cane back from Cambodia after staying there for a month about two months ago....those women make American women look like saints ....if her interest is declining urs because she practically asked you to bang her abd you either wimp ed out or were completely clueless.... I literally almost banged a new Cambodia n girl everyday I was there...one time 3 in one day... major ity of them are very promiscuous and straight forward...

 

[Evan]

You missed it man. You could have ****ed her that night. I also agree you texted too much. Keep it short and only about getting together.

 

[jake-a-roo4]

I said "We'll make a list of crazy places to have sex" kissed her, and walked away.

Make a list? Why didn't you look for a crazy place to have sex right then? Don't talk about having sex. HAVE sex with her right there.

 

[sylvester the cat]

i think OP's killed himself.

 

[marmel75]

Yeah I'm with them...had a similar situation happen once where I had a girl out, was on her touching her all night, she told me about how she just stopped seeing this guy who was a FWB because it was great sex and she missed it, I didn't kiss her and we we get outside, I walk her to the car and she says "It was really nice to meet you" and I went to open my mouth and say something and she just grabbed me and started kissing me, then tonguing me, I started kissing her neck, grabbing her as and telling her how nice it was driving me crazy all night and then I stopped and told her I had to go(I know---idiot).

I'll never forget the look of disgust she had on her face as she said "Thanks a lot!!" In a sarcastic tone, walked to her car and slammed the door shut. Text next morning said "she had fun but we lacked chemistry". Aka " I wanted to f*ck last night and you acted like a beeyatch"

Always err on the side of aggression.

 

[El Payaso]

She wanted you to fvck her but you didn't. You missed a solid chance. All you had to do was say "Let's find out right now".

Oh, well. No use crying over spilled milk. Now that you suspect her interest declining is not the time to panic. Follow the rule that you always give a girl 40% of the interest she shows in you.

Now is the time to withdraw your attention and let her chase you. Don't focus on her anymore. Focus your attention on other girls. Don't bombard her with texts or cutesy messages. Your goal should be to take her out and fvck the sh!t out of her.

Honestly, this one might be a lost cause or it might not but it is imperative that you don't chase harder because of her declining interest. It will only push her further away.

And for the love of God, never assume a girl is "innocent". They're all slvts. They either just don't know it yet or you haven't brought it out of her yet.

 

[the_stig]

Hi guys.

She had someplace to be (legit, I heard the convo) so sex wasn't happening right there.

I jumped the gun on this thread, all is well and she can't wait to see me again. I'm sending about one text for every two or three she sends, so things are cool.