"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I posted about the same girl under the "good move?" post earlier. So I went out with her again...not sure how to read her. Tonight was more first date like than any before, yet when i was out with her and her friends on Friday (she was more sober then!) she was acting like I was her bf practically. She was passed out on my couch but still wanted to drive home even though she has tomorrow off, yet the other dates have ended with her staying..its like she seriously backed off, i dont think it really has anything to do with my issues I posted in the "Good move?" post. Maybe her friends made me out to be a player? Its how shes acting..she did fall asleep wrapped around me..she did kiss me but i had to make a point of it and I got the vibe that she was just going with it, which previously she was really into it.
Last week she was wanting to know what I was doing for NYE, and inviting me to join in on whatever she does. We were talking and i mentioned I dont know whats going on yet and nothing..to the point that she said its no big deal not going out all. Yet she was still out with me. There was one conversation that stood out and she seemed very keen on, was that people around here are more focused on hooking up, it seemed out of place. I made the mistake of replying to a text she sent of saying that i really like being around her and for her to have a good NYE..she ignored that part of the txt of me telling her i like being around her and just responded to the rest. Not sure how to proceed with her.
This brings up the major problem I deal with, I deal with girls all the time often as good looking or better than this but the ones I want to be around never seem to want to stick around me yet I have others chasing me down for months. I just dont get it and its starting to eat at me badly.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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....and your question would be ??

(and please please please don't tell me it's "Why do i only fall for girls that *trait* ?")
 

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Yes, that post makes very little sense. Forget about the one long paragraph with run on setences that amount to not much.

What is it that you want with this one?
What are you doing to get there?
Is it working?
And yes, what is your question?
 

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Sorry it made sense at 3am when I was drunk :). I don't think this girl has any certain "trait" that is bad or that I am really screwing up. I am just frustrated as it seems momentum was on my side so I was trying to figure out her behavior. She was coming on pretty strong and appears to be backing off, but still wants to see me. After some clear thinking I'm guessing her friends may have something to do with it and she may concerned that I am just out for a piece of ass.
I guess my question was what does that kind of behavior usually result from? She seemed to really like me and we clicked pretty well but instead of moving forward it seems to be moving backwards all of a sudded, it seemed to peak on the date before last one, so maybe she just likes me but doesnt want to get involved, who knows. I'm just mildy frustrated since I like this chick and it's never simple. I just hope my dumb text to her while drunk last night didnt hurt things..
 

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And i realize this post is only a slight improvement over my drunken one;) Sorry.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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