Dear Abby: The Harder Husband Works, The More His Wife Cheats

[MatureDJ]

http://news.yahoo.com/harder-husband-works-more-wife-cheats-050046424.html

This guy may the beta-est of all time!

DEAR ABBY: I am a 47-year-old male, married for 26 years. I am hopelessly in love with my wife and still see her as the most beautiful woman in the world.

I have always been self-employed and have sometimes been at the extremes of feast or famine. During the bad times, I often worked 110-plus-hour weeks to save the ship.

Each time things have gotten really bad, my wife has had an affair to make up for the time, money and attention I can't provide her. I found out about her latest affair (her third) when I found a secret cellphone in her purse. For the last eight months, when she visited our daughter at college, she would check into a hotel with her lover.

I feel responsible for failing to meet her needs. She doesn't want a divorce, but admits she doubts she will ever fully stop dating, and says the effort she puts into deceiving me is proof she loves me and doesn't want to hurt my feelings.

I am amazed at the number of men willing to have sex with a married woman. My heart is broken, and I feel like a failure. Am I a fool to keep fighting for her? -- HOPELESSLY IN LOVE

WTF? Let's review that line again.

She doesn't want a divorce, but admits she doubts she will ever fully stop dating, and says the effort she puts into deceiving me is proof she loves me and doesn't want to hurt my feelings.

My opinion: She is fooling around - even telling him she wants to stay married AND still fool around - because this guy is just an incredible weenie, albeit a great provisioner.

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear Twentee,
The situation you describe so well is unusual but does occur...An ostensibly happily married colleague of mine has been banging a married Woman,every Wednesday Afternoon,regular as Clockwork,for about 35 years....Three years ago his Wife died.....You would think these two would have flown into each others arms,but No...The same arrangement is still followed...A great argument for rejecting Marriage in favour of spinning Plates,which makes every encounter something Special!...I often reflect on whether this little charade keeps her Marriage going?

 

[Bible_Belt]

Wow, 35 years! I am just barely older than that affair. Obviously that man is not averse to commitment. He just has very specific terms.

 

[Big Pappy]

Quality, Time, Material

Hmmm....not beta, just stupid.

Value, remember? If I have to work 110 hours a week to keep my lifestyle, then there's something seriously wrong with my life style.

The reason the gal started the affairs in the first place was because this guy worked too many hours, and forgot the reason why he wanted the money in the first place. (speculation, admittedly)

Men, there is a tradeoff between hour worked vs. benefits received. I can have a million dollars if I work 110 hours a week or have 2000 a week if I just work 40 hours a week - which would I choose? I'd take the 2 grand a week. Money is a tool and wouldn't do me a bit of good if I'm too tired to spend it.

This lovely wife of his is worthless to him if he has to work to keep her.
He should tell her she will stop immediately, and if not, file for divorce. Enter couples therapy.

He has to change, and when he changes, so will she.

 

[LiveFreeX]

The above reply certainly rings true. I find a lot of really bored women in my school have husbands that are very rich and successful but continually focus on their work and completely ignore the wife. They are almost oblivious to the fact that their wives are horny and looking to get laid, so they just keep on powering through. China has a lot of unhappy spouses cause both husband and wife are workaholics. When they retire, they don't even know each other or their kids.