"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Dealing with: "You would rather TEASE ME than COMPLIMENT Me"

Roadhammered

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I am dating someone who has a HIL (high interest level), partly because I am good at being slightly ****y(in a light, flippant way), unpredictable, fun, and am good at neg hittings.

She loves it. But she STILL is going to complain about it.

This is just how women are. Since you are smarter it will be easy to see the double double way she's going to look at it.

The most obvious thing she said over the weekend is ' why dont you ever compliment me? Youre always putting me downn. You must not even like me'

When I heard it i knew my attitude was coming across. Not in a mean way, but she no way was bored with me.

My response was more of the same. No reason to get all sappy then. I shrugged it off with 'i only kid people who can handle it' or something like that. Of course she loved it.

refuse to let her complaints prevent you from the attitude.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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DJnoob

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i think its a test, trying to see whether you'd change your attitude or not
 

PeeGee

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It's definitely a test. Now, a question about your choice of words:

what does being ****y in a flippant type of manner imply? I'm curious as it sounds more negative than it probably is.
 
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