Dealing with *****y attitude

[cognac]

One of the girls I've been gaming started acting up. She was being a total ***** and you know what I told her how it is. Whether it's a **** test or not I don't care. She wants to be a ***** well she gets my bad side in return.

I don't care if I did the right thing or not. Act cold and selfish and the ***** gets it in return. I flat out told her I didn't contact her to be ****ted on. She said she's not trying to do that to me. Well guess what the damn *****y-assed attitude is showing me she is. Sometimes they need put in their place. Being silent doesn't always work.

 

[Scars]

Definite sh!t test which you definitely failed. You should of just kept your cool, she would of came back at you with an even higher IL than she did before. It's a bit late for that now. Unless the girl is disrespecting YOU personally, then just treat them like a kid and don't take them seriously. If she is doing something you don't like then SHOW her it's not acceptable, don't tell her. The reward is your attention and affection, when she is being good give her some, when she is being bad then draw back.

 

[Blue Phoenix]

"The reward is your attention and affection, when she is being good give her some, when she is being bad then draw back."

PERFECT.

 

[cognac]

This was over the phone. Can't really show her it's unacceptable over the phone. Not talking to her anymore will though.

 

[Plinco]

Question for you folks:

I would have said to her that, that kind of behavior is not cool, and that she should talk to me when she is ready. Is this the right attitude?

 

[Scars]

This was over the phone. Can't really show her it's unacceptable over the phone. Not talking to her anymore will though.

Sure you can, be short with her. Talk to her for a few minutes then say you gotta go because you're "busy". She will catch on soon enough. She's just trying to test your emotional reaction to things. By flipping out on her, you fail. You've got to stay cool, calm, and collected. She didn't disrespect you personally, she didn't insult you or anything. She drew back her attention from you, so you should of done the same. You need to do some damage control now. Cut all contact from her. It may be awhile before she hits you up again, but if you just disappear cold then she will eventually. Come back with a new attitude. She will test you again. Keep your emotions in check and you pass.