"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Dealing with witty and smarts

Fumbduck

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Hello All,

How would you deal with a smart, witty girl who is not alpha by any means- but understands your leading/probing DJ questions and tactics and whether it be on purpose or by accident giving you an answer you're not looking for.

Hypothetical responses:

(you) "It's a shame you could never be my girlfriend"
(her) "awww oh well"

(you) "I hate you"
(her) "you love it"



You know the type of question, the 'fishing'/'leading' questions when you're looking for a type of response and stimulus from a girl...however she will intentionally or by accident come up with a response you're not anticipating
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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LostAndConfused

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She's playing push-pull with you / toying with you.

It kinda opens up a good way to build interest in her though...playing her game of push-pull, but even better.

Not tellin ya to stoop to her level...but...you've gotta play games with her too.
 

potato

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LostAndConfused said:
She's playing push-pull with you / toying with you.

It kinda opens up a good way to build interest in her though...playing her game of push-pull, but even better.

Not tellin ya to stoop to her level...but...you've gotta play games with her too.
Stoop to her level? The guy is trying to game her and she is toying with him - sounds like she has the upper hand.

I have a girlfriend who regularly gets hit on and regularly plays with guys who think that they have great game. It is really fun to watch. Some guy will come up to her and start in on her an she just plays along for awhile and keeps saying things that end up frustrating the guy and then she laughs at him, tells him to have a nice day. It’s one of the major reasons that I think game is a bunch of crap.
 

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I get these responses sometimes. At first it threw me off, but it's actually a good sign. She likes your personality and is just mimicking you. She's enjoys your company and is just sort of playing with you too. Probably because she has a similar personality and likes your sense of humor.

Now, if she wasn't into you, she defiinitely would not be giving you those type of responses. She would either ignore you or ask why you would say something like that.

By the way, you should be happy you met a girl like this, these are the most fun to be around with.
 

Poonani Maker

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Sandow said:
I get these responses sometimes. At first it threw me off, but it's actually a good sign. She likes your personality and is just mimicking you. She's enjoys your company and is just sort of playing with you too. Probably because she has a similar personality and likes your sense of humor.

Now, if she wasn't into you, she defiinitely would not be giving you those type of responses. She would either ignore you or ask why you would say something like that.

By the way, you should be happy you met a girl like this, these are the most fun to be around with.
Right. I love to banter with girls who have very much like my personality to begin with. Makes it easy to love these kind. Free chicks. The ones that are cold and distant, I can't stand, because I know that they're the most judgmental kind and I don't like being wrongly labeled because I know I'm the most ideal guy for ANY woman so if a woman is judging me then she must be pulling the judgments out of her a$$ or from some outside source, like her parents' conditioning or some dude feeding her a bunch of bs about me.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Gangster Of Love

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It is on man. She gets it, and likes what she hears/sees. These type of girls are always ready to engage you. You've been thinking about her a lot haven't you? By all means, go toe to toe with her, and increase that attraction.
 

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This where the Mystery Method falls short
 

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Dongfu said:
This where the Mystery Method falls short
Where, what part exactly? Do tell.
 
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