"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Dealing with the friends of a girl you want to get with?
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Purefilth
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SoSuave666
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Now to deal with your problem: If the friend is jealous then it will only work to your benefit. If she genuinely disapproves of you though I wouldn't fret it. If the girl you are trying to get at values her friends opinions over her own values then you don't want to get with her anyway. I find often that when I try and break into a new circle there will always be some friendship "sh!t testing" because a.) they don't really know you and b.) they are being protective of their friend or c.) they are jealous that their gf is getting the attention. All you can do is try and warm up to them a bit. Give them some attention and make them feel happy.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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Girls will act on their feelings no matter what anyone else thinks or says. So you have to wonder what has more effect on the girls feelings. Is it the alpha male? Or the competitive 'girlfriend.' Alpha male will win every time. If this chick's friends don't approve of you and are actually putting you down while you are in their company, give that sh!t right back. Have a backbone.DB12 said:Haha that's actually true i've noticed that girls are really jealous creatures and hate on other girls or friends they perceive as a threat or is prettier anyway.. your saying if the friend is jealous it will work to my benefit.. but what if she genuinely dislikes me, say she doesn't think im attractive for her friend or her friends to out of my league then are you saying from there on that your thoughts of gaming said girl should be based on whether she listens to her friends or not? and do you think girls think for themselves or will most listen to there friends?
If a girls friends don't think you are good looking enough for her though, you might be in trouble. We have all seen an ugly dude with a hot girl..and you know what the friends think of the guy when that scenario happens? They think the guy is a real catch. The situation doesn't work in the opposite fashion though. If there are 6 girls in a circle and five of them think the guy is ugly, you better believe the sixth girl will be highly influenced by their thoughts. Social status is imperative to a female's survival in the social world...so keep that in mind.
So contrary to popular belief looks play a somewhat important roll in attracting women? and thanks for the advice im going to keep this in mindSoSuave666 said:Girls will act on their feelings no matter what anyone else thinks or says. So you have to wonder what has more effect on the girls feelings. Is it the alpha male? Or the competitive 'girlfriend.' Alpha male will win every time. If this chick's friends don't approve of you and are actually putting you down while you are in their company, give that sh!t right back. Have a backbone.
If a girls friends don't think you are good looking enough for her though, you might be in trouble. We have all seen an ugly dude with a hot girl..and you know what the friends think of the guy when that scenario happens? They think the guy is a real catch. The situation doesn't work in the opposite fashion though. If there are 6 girls in a circle and five of them think the guy is ugly, you better believe the sixth girl will be highly influenced by their thoughts. Social status is imperative to a female's survival in the social world...so keep that in mind.
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Looks play a HUGE role in attracting women. If the girl doesn't find you physically attractive she wouldn't even let you in the door to game her. And if you do start to game her from jump and she doesn't find you attractive then to her your a "creep"DB12 said:So contrary to popular belief looks play a somewhat important roll in attracting women? and thanks for the advice im going to keep this in mind