Hello gentlemen,
This is pretty much another thread stemming from this one. I've started this thread to basically ask how you older guys would deal with this.. and if you have any advice?
I'd just like to preface this by saying that I know what the usual treatment is for oneitis: go bang other girls, and I both completely understand and agree this. The problem is that due to my immense workload at the moment, I really don't have a social life. Combine this the fact that I'm dieting for summer, so no alcohol (or very limited at best) for at least another 2 months. Not to mention, even if I did find time to get out, I'd be in a foul mood.
I'd also better say a bit about the girl in question: First of all, she is very attractive I'd say 8+ even though that scale is pretty meaningless. The point is she gets a lot of attention and she knows she's attractive. When she first started at my workplace ~6 months ago I didn't feel anything whatsoever for her. I knew she was pretty but she gave off a very bratty, spoiled vibe. She's the stereotypical version of a "daddy's princess". I did get on with her but felt she was a bad egg (from what I understand she gets around a bit and she gets asked out on a lot of dates). Basically there were red flags all over the place and, being at work, I figured it's best not to dip the pen in company ink so basically just joked around with her but had no intention of taking it anywhere.
It's also worth mentioning that since the outset she's been attracted to me. I've caught her giving me a lot of furtive glances, she constantly tries to be around me/get close to me at work social events. At our last social event (a few months ago) she was draped all over me, asking why I don't have a girl etc etc. She asked if I was coming to another bar with her afterwards but I turned her down as I had another party I had to be at. In the end the party was cancelled but she left after I told her I wasn't going. This carried on until the Christmas break and now suddenly, since we've been back at work the last ~6-7 weeks she's been quite cold with me. I've no idea why, and I won't waste any time speculating. I've noticed her giving me the rare glance but nothing like her behaviour before the break.
That's fine with me (although I'll admit my ego was slightly bruised.. I do like the attention) although now I'm finding I'm getting these 'feelings for her'.. cringe. This has only started since work has become incredibly busy and I've been working most evenings/weekends so I've had a lot of time around her. So far I've played it cool. If anything, I've ignored her. I know she doesn't suspect anything but I'm starting to find it very difficult to deal with.
I've had crushes like this before and usually I just sever all contact and it fades. The problem is that this girl is pretty much in my face every day. I'm also finding myself irritated when I overhear her talking about going on other dates etc, since I sit very near to her. I'll admit, it really sucks. I find it influencing my work too because it's difficult to concentrate when you're focusing all your willpower on controlling your emotions.
In a rather weird way I am actually glad I'm having this experience. I view it as a test.. of self-control. So far I think I've played my cards well but I'm starting to feel I'm at breaking point - mainly due to all the stress from so much overtime, lack of sleep, irritability from dieting (anyone who's gone sub ~10% will know the feeling) and I'm finding it very very stressful.
Have any of you been in this situation before? Have you any advice? I must admit I'm a little ashamed posting about this.. I'm a grown man that's been on these boards long enough to know how to deal with these things.. but at the very least I'm getting to vent.
I have also got a lot of holidays planned this year although they're not due for another few months.. so that's at least something to look forward to. But for the time being I really don't know what to do.
Thanks guys
This is pretty much another thread stemming from this one. I've started this thread to basically ask how you older guys would deal with this.. and if you have any advice?
I'd just like to preface this by saying that I know what the usual treatment is for oneitis: go bang other girls, and I both completely understand and agree this. The problem is that due to my immense workload at the moment, I really don't have a social life. Combine this the fact that I'm dieting for summer, so no alcohol (or very limited at best) for at least another 2 months. Not to mention, even if I did find time to get out, I'd be in a foul mood.
I'd also better say a bit about the girl in question: First of all, she is very attractive I'd say 8+ even though that scale is pretty meaningless. The point is she gets a lot of attention and she knows she's attractive. When she first started at my workplace ~6 months ago I didn't feel anything whatsoever for her. I knew she was pretty but she gave off a very bratty, spoiled vibe. She's the stereotypical version of a "daddy's princess". I did get on with her but felt she was a bad egg (from what I understand she gets around a bit and she gets asked out on a lot of dates). Basically there were red flags all over the place and, being at work, I figured it's best not to dip the pen in company ink so basically just joked around with her but had no intention of taking it anywhere.
It's also worth mentioning that since the outset she's been attracted to me. I've caught her giving me a lot of furtive glances, she constantly tries to be around me/get close to me at work social events. At our last social event (a few months ago) she was draped all over me, asking why I don't have a girl etc etc. She asked if I was coming to another bar with her afterwards but I turned her down as I had another party I had to be at. In the end the party was cancelled but she left after I told her I wasn't going. This carried on until the Christmas break and now suddenly, since we've been back at work the last ~6-7 weeks she's been quite cold with me. I've no idea why, and I won't waste any time speculating. I've noticed her giving me the rare glance but nothing like her behaviour before the break.
That's fine with me (although I'll admit my ego was slightly bruised.. I do like the attention) although now I'm finding I'm getting these 'feelings for her'.. cringe. This has only started since work has become incredibly busy and I've been working most evenings/weekends so I've had a lot of time around her. So far I've played it cool. If anything, I've ignored her. I know she doesn't suspect anything but I'm starting to find it very difficult to deal with.
I've had crushes like this before and usually I just sever all contact and it fades. The problem is that this girl is pretty much in my face every day. I'm also finding myself irritated when I overhear her talking about going on other dates etc, since I sit very near to her. I'll admit, it really sucks. I find it influencing my work too because it's difficult to concentrate when you're focusing all your willpower on controlling your emotions.
In a rather weird way I am actually glad I'm having this experience. I view it as a test.. of self-control. So far I think I've played my cards well but I'm starting to feel I'm at breaking point - mainly due to all the stress from so much overtime, lack of sleep, irritability from dieting (anyone who's gone sub ~10% will know the feeling) and I'm finding it very very stressful.
Have any of you been in this situation before? Have you any advice? I must admit I'm a little ashamed posting about this.. I'm a grown man that's been on these boards long enough to know how to deal with these things.. but at the very least I'm getting to vent.
I have also got a lot of holidays planned this year although they're not due for another few months.. so that's at least something to look forward to. But for the time being I really don't know what to do.
Thanks guys
