"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Dealing with super flirty girls

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There is this super flirty intern at my work this summer; and she is always the one to initiate the flirting with me. She's always doing something to put me in an uncomfortable situation, at least that is how I feel when she is in her flirt mode.

I can't quite get back control of our interactions, I'm always reacting. I don't know if I should try and top her on the flirting, or if I should play it more passive and just let her go. I don't mind it so much, she's sexy as hell and fun, but I feel like I'm always the loser of our interactions, if that makes any sense.

Has anyone else had experience with this?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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why are you not flirting back and being uncomfortable ? i think you should be flirt back more..be slightly ****y around her but let her know you're doing it playfully(non verbally ofcourse)
 
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There is a bigger Problem behind yours. One of the lessons of Pook deals with it - talking to a woman on a sexual level.

The main Rule here is: If you concider a woman to be nasty - you are not compfortable with your own sexuality which is why you think of her as nasty while she dispalys her own sexuality.

Read those Lessons of Pook - they will open your eyes not only on this problem!

All hail to the Pook!
 
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sinnerman said:
why are you not flirting back and being uncomfortable ? i think you should be flirt back more..be slightly ****y around her but let her know you're doing it playfully(non verbally ofcourse)
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Will do, but she overtly does it around my boss at times. I kind of keep my mouth shut and smile in those instances.

I gotta get quicker with the comebacks.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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IShotTheSheriff said:
There is a bigger Problem behind yours. One of the lessons of Pook deals with it - talking to a woman on a sexual level.

The main Rule here is: If you concider a woman to be nasty - you are not compfortable with your own sexuality which is why you think of her as nasty while she dispalys her own sexuality.

Read those Lessons of Pook - they will open your eyes not only on this problem!

All hail to the Pook!
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I'm not gonna lie and say I'm completely comfortable with my sexuality, because I know I'm not, but I don't consider her nasty or mean, if that is what you are referring to.

Thanks, though, I'll re read that lesson, and keep in mind for Monday.
 
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element0 said:
but I feel like I'm always the loser of our interactions, if that makes any sense.
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I know exactly what you're trying to say and if you FEEL like the loser then you ARE the loser.

It doesn't really have anything to do with what you say to her in particular, it's more an internal thing.

You feel like the loser in the interaction because you feel inferior in some respect, like she is so good at what she does and you can't top it. Stop trying, focus more on who YOU are and never mind her game, I'm sure she is really good at it and thats fine but you don't need to be mesmerized by it, just chill out and flirt back A LITTLE without trying to top her .

It would be like some petite women trying to show a bunch of tough fire fighters that she can bust down that door, get in that burning building and put the fire out just as well as they can. That would be painful to watch nor would a guy really care if she could do that. Forget it, flirting is her full time game and you'll never be as good as her, so don't bother. She isn't interested in the guy who can top her flirting, she is probably interested in the guy that has the most control over himself and not trying to mimic her.
 
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