Dealing with super flirty girls

[element0]

There is this super flirty intern at my work this summer; and she is always the one to initiate the flirting with me. She's always doing something to put me in an uncomfortable situation, at least that is how I feel when she is in her flirt mode.

I can't quite get back control of our interactions, I'm always reacting. I don't know if I should try and top her on the flirting, or if I should play it more passive and just let her go. I don't mind it so much, she's sexy as hell and fun, but I feel like I'm always the loser of our interactions, if that makes any sense.

Has anyone else had experience with this?

 

[TheJazz]

She seems manly with all that initiative. Next!

 

[sinnerman]

why are you not flirting back and being uncomfortable ? i think you should be flirt back more..be slightly ****y around her but let her know you're doing it playfully(non verbally ofcourse)

 

[IShotTheSheriff]

There is a bigger Problem behind yours. One of the lessons of Pook deals with it - talking to a woman on a sexual level.

The main Rule here is: If you concider a woman to be nasty - you are not compfortable with your own sexuality which is why you think of her as nasty while she dispalys her own sexuality.

Read those Lessons of Pook - they will open your eyes not only on this problem!

All hail to the Pook!

 

[element0]

why are you not flirting back and being uncomfortable ? i think you should be flirt back more..be slightly ****y around her but let her know you're doing it playfully(non verbally ofcourse)

Will do, but she overtly does it around my boss at times. I kind of keep my mouth shut and smile in those instances.

I gotta get quicker with the comebacks.

 

[element0]

There is a bigger Problem behind yours. One of the lessons of Pook deals with it - talking to a woman on a sexual level.

The main Rule here is: If you concider a woman to be nasty - you are not compfortable with your own sexuality which is why you think of her as nasty while she dispalys her own sexuality.

Read those Lessons of Pook - they will open your eyes not only on this problem!

All hail to the Pook!

I'm not gonna lie and say I'm completely comfortable with my sexuality, because I know I'm not, but I don't consider her nasty or mean, if that is what you are referring to.

Thanks, though, I'll re read that lesson, and keep in mind for Monday.

 

[st_99]

but I feel like I'm always the loser of our interactions, if that makes any sense.

I know exactly what you're trying to say and if you FEEL like the loser then you ARE the loser.

It doesn't really have anything to do with what you say to her in particular, it's more an internal thing.

You feel like the loser in the interaction because you feel inferior in some respect, like she is so good at what she does and you can't top it. Stop trying, focus more on who YOU are and never mind her game, I'm sure she is really good at it and thats fine but you don't need to be mesmerized by it, just chill out and flirt back A LITTLE without trying to top her .

It would be like some petite women trying to show a bunch of tough fire fighters that she can bust down that door, get in that burning building and put the fire out just as well as they can. That would be painful to watch nor would a guy really care if she could do that. Forget it, flirting is her full time game and you'll never be as good as her, so don't bother. She isn't interested in the guy who can top her flirting, she is probably interested in the guy that has the most control over himself and not trying to mimic her.