"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Dealing with stress...

backbreaker

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how do you guys deal with stress?

If being married has a down part this is it for me. Because, I know me. I know when I can be social and likable and I know when i'm not lol. When I"m not, I tend to stay away from people / withdrawal utnil I can fix whatever issue that is stressing me out.

But when you live with a woman they take everything personally and think that "they" did something wrong or the reason you aren't communicating is because of them. "Well you talk about work stuff all the time why can't you talk about this" is the mantra you get.


I mean I just don't want to drink my problems away for obvious reasons. You can only go to the gym so much and today I am so out of it, it's effecting my gym workouts, real lethargic.


AS far as the actual problem I'm facing,l because I know some smartass will ask, It's something I can handle, not the end of the world, but it's just causing a lot of stress, but it's gonna take a month or so to resolve. I really don't ant to talk about it for the above reasons (Stress)



What are some constructive ways to deal with stressful situtations so that I don't snap on everyone lol?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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What specifically are you stressed about? Or is it an agitation toward everything?
 

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gonna make some enchiladas tonight. been having a taste for them for a while now
 

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I agree with eating the right food. For me specific, the healthier I eat the better I feel overall and thus the less stressed I am.

For work I am required to keep my phone on 24x7x365... but now and then I might "accidently" leave it in the truck while going to the gym, taking my daughter to the park, pretty much anything. The mental break I get from not having that damn phone glued to my body for just ONE HOUR is a MAJOR stress relief for me in of itself.
 

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Good quality sleeps has helped me.

And I make my bed in the morning EVERYDAY. This keeps me from feeling rushed and unorganized
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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What works for me:

1. Eat well. A typical day for me is porrage with blue- and raspberries and whey protein in the morning finishing the porrage over the day, whey protein and whatever is for dinner after the gym, four fried eggs and a brussel sprouts + spinach + broccoli soup, and then casein protein before bed. Combined with an omega 3 supplement. Check with your doctor to see if anything is lacking in your blood.

2. Sleep well. This means shut your electronic devices off at least 30 minutes before you go to bed (unless you leave hypnosis on through your computer speakers) and don't go to bed later than 9 hours before you're supposed to wake up.

3. Work out well. I personally feel like a sack of sh!t physically if I don't work out, so at this point for me it's more like something my body needs than something I "have to do".

4. Take walks when you can. Sitting on your ass inside tears you down.

When you do these 4 things I guarantee you the stress will be reduced. If you have a job that doesn't let you do this, well - there's your answer.
 
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I always enjoy sitting at the titty bar drinking a little, listening to good music, and staring at naked girls. Lets my mind escape.
 

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Play video games. Typical SS rhetoric will tell you that video games are a waste of time and not productive. But I personally like to enjoy a good video game to get my mind off ****.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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take a walk after dark, Cruise on my bike.... no radio on it, or hunt. All 3 involve silence :)
 
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