"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Dealing with stress...

backbreaker

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how do you guys deal with stress?

If being married has a down part this is it for me. Because, I know me. I know when I can be social and likable and I know when i'm not lol. When I"m not, I tend to stay away from people / withdrawal utnil I can fix whatever issue that is stressing me out.

But when you live with a woman they take everything personally and think that "they" did something wrong or the reason you aren't communicating is because of them. "Well you talk about work stuff all the time why can't you talk about this" is the mantra you get.


I mean I just don't want to drink my problems away for obvious reasons. You can only go to the gym so much and today I am so out of it, it's effecting my gym workouts, real lethargic.


AS far as the actual problem I'm facing,l because I know some smartass will ask, It's something I can handle, not the end of the world, but it's just causing a lot of stress, but it's gonna take a month or so to resolve. I really don't ant to talk about it for the above reasons (Stress)



What are some constructive ways to deal with stressful situtations so that I don't snap on everyone lol?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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What specifically are you stressed about? Or is it an agitation toward everything?
 

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gonna make some enchiladas tonight. been having a taste for them for a while now
 

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I agree with eating the right food. For me specific, the healthier I eat the better I feel overall and thus the less stressed I am.

For work I am required to keep my phone on 24x7x365... but now and then I might "accidently" leave it in the truck while going to the gym, taking my daughter to the park, pretty much anything. The mental break I get from not having that damn phone glued to my body for just ONE HOUR is a MAJOR stress relief for me in of itself.
 

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Good quality sleeps has helped me.

And I make my bed in the morning EVERYDAY. This keeps me from feeling rushed and unorganized
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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What works for me:

1. Eat well. A typical day for me is porrage with blue- and raspberries and whey protein in the morning finishing the porrage over the day, whey protein and whatever is for dinner after the gym, four fried eggs and a brussel sprouts + spinach + broccoli soup, and then casein protein before bed. Combined with an omega 3 supplement. Check with your doctor to see if anything is lacking in your blood.

2. Sleep well. This means shut your electronic devices off at least 30 minutes before you go to bed (unless you leave hypnosis on through your computer speakers) and don't go to bed later than 9 hours before you're supposed to wake up.

3. Work out well. I personally feel like a sack of sh!t physically if I don't work out, so at this point for me it's more like something my body needs than something I "have to do".

4. Take walks when you can. Sitting on your ass inside tears you down.

When you do these 4 things I guarantee you the stress will be reduced. If you have a job that doesn't let you do this, well - there's your answer.
 
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I always enjoy sitting at the titty bar drinking a little, listening to good music, and staring at naked girls. Lets my mind escape.
 

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Play video games. Typical SS rhetoric will tell you that video games are a waste of time and not productive. But I personally like to enjoy a good video game to get my mind off ****.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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take a walk after dark, Cruise on my bike.... no radio on it, or hunt. All 3 involve silence :)
 
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