Dealing with pre-selection problem.

[Comatozed]

I feel trapped.

Girls base your value based on pre-selection. I've never been in a LTR, i don't have lots of girls on social media sites liking my stuff... girls I know and know me likely see me as low status due to all this...

How do I go about solving this?

So far all I got is delete Facebook, hoping the lack of social value will be masked and the mysterious approach may drive up interest.

But when you're aiming to get dates with girls who know nothing about you..a certain level of comfort is needed and you not giving them any info whatsoever is likely to be a red flag.

I feel pretty down atm, I'm of an age where my social circle has split off, and all my friends are in relationships...and i'm just seeing opportunities to meet girls getting less and less as I get older.

I'm 22, degree educated, 6ft3 and average looking so objectively i'm not that bad, just years of me not caring to socialize with people outside of my close knit group has started to bite me on the backside and I don't see a way out of it. I really don't wanna end up with a fat girl.

I guess it's time to learn to cold approach.

 

[Comatozed]

yep. as ****ed as i thought i was.

 

[Tictac]

You know what to do, meet new women.

So get busy.

You're busy right now figuring why you're stuck.

Most of that is crap by the way.

 

[marmel75]

Women who don't know you will base their opinions of you on your opinion of yourself..sadly that seems pretty low right now

 

[Comatozed]

Ty.

Yea I'm not going to lie, right now I am probably seeking too much validation from external sources, but I think given my situation it's understandable.

It is hard at times to not doubt yourself, like I said, never been in a relationship and had a few knock-backs wrt to employment...but I will continue to focus on improving myself and moving forward at all times and things should fall into place.

 

[skinnyguy]

The opportunities to meet girls will get worse as you get older.

Cold approach maybe but you will still be judged on pre selection. If a girl I barely know sees me with an HB 10 at the club, all of a sudden her interest will skyrocket

 

[marmel75]

The opportunities to meet girls will get worse as you get older.

Cold approach maybe but you will still be judged on pre selection. If a girl I barely know sees me with an HB 10 at the club, all of a sudden her interest will skyrocket

The hell it does...before I reformed myself, at 38, while married, I had 80+ numbers in my phone and could have been tagging 5-6 women on the regular(only was tagging 2 regularly), probably more if I was single...

But I might be an outlier, I'm in phenomenal shape, look like a college linebacker and most women think I'm 30-32 at oldest...

For the dudes that let themselves get out of shape, don't exercise and need viagara...thank you...your girl is drooling over me