"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Dealing with pre-selection problem.

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I feel trapped.

Girls base your value based on pre-selection. I've never been in a LTR, i don't have lots of girls on social media sites liking my stuff... girls I know and know me likely see me as low status due to all this...

How do I go about solving this?

So far all I got is delete Facebook, hoping the lack of social value will be masked and the mysterious approach may drive up interest.

But when you're aiming to get dates with girls who know nothing about you..a certain level of comfort is needed and you not giving them any info whatsoever is likely to be a red flag.

I feel pretty down atm, I'm of an age where my social circle has split off, and all my friends are in relationships...and i'm just seeing opportunities to meet girls getting less and less as I get older.

I'm 22, degree educated, 6ft3 and average looking so objectively i'm not that bad, just years of me not caring to socialize with people outside of my close knit group has started to bite me on the backside and I don't see a way out of it. I really don't wanna end up with a fat girl.

I guess it's time to learn to cold approach.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Women who don't know you will base their opinions of you on your opinion of yourself..sadly that seems pretty low right now
 
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Ty.

Yea I'm not going to lie, right now I am probably seeking too much validation from external sources, but I think given my situation it's understandable.

It is hard at times to not doubt yourself, like I said, never been in a relationship and had a few knock-backs wrt to employment...but I will continue to focus on improving myself and moving forward at all times and things should fall into place.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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The opportunities to meet girls will get worse as you get older.

Cold approach maybe but you will still be judged on pre selection. If a girl I barely know sees me with an HB 10 at the club, all of a sudden her interest will skyrocket
 
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skinnyguy said:
The opportunities to meet girls will get worse as you get older.

Cold approach maybe but you will still be judged on pre selection. If a girl I barely know sees me with an HB 10 at the club, all of a sudden her interest will skyrocket
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The hell it does...before I reformed myself, at 38, while married, I had 80+ numbers in my phone and could have been tagging 5-6 women on the regular(only was tagging 2 regularly), probably more if I was single...

But I might be an outlier, I'm in phenomenal shape, look like a college linebacker and most women think I'm 30-32 at oldest...

For the dudes that let themselves get out of shape, don't exercise and need viagara...thank you...your girl is drooling over me
 
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