I?ve read a lot of the tips that says to just go up, say ?hi? and move on with your instincts and thankfully, so far I?ve been able to continue with the conversation. But a few days back, I saw some dude go up to some girls, said hi and they ignored him. After a while he just said ?Ok, well, have a great day?, It?s was absolutely awkward and embarrassing for him. So, that brought the question to my mind. What are some lines or things to say/do if they don?t respond to you? All I can figure it to try and get them to talk again by bringing up some stuffs the pertains to the circumstances, like ?How do you find the food? or stuffs like that. But what if they still ignore you?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Dealing with no-response.
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Trapspringer
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I think your buddy handled things well. I do almost the exact same thing most of the time but I can't remember being totally ignored but, of course, I have been rejected instantly before and I don't push it when it comes to instant rejections.
A couple of weekends ago, I was out clubbing with several buddies. I usually like to get on the dance floor and dance with different women to get a feel for them and return to them later to throw them off. On this night, I walked up to one woman and just just started dancing with her just as I always do. She stopped dancing as soon as I
got in front of her and started dancing. She signaled to me that she was going to leave the dance floor immediately. I just raised my hands in a non-defensive manner and let her past, went to the other end of the floor and walked right up to another one and she started grinding/dry-humping the hell out of me on the dance floor. We eventually exchanged numbers and I returned to the dance floor for more dancing.
Moral of the story- save your own face by showing that the cold shoulder is no big deal to you. It happens to the best of em. I like the added touch of saying "have a nice day" because I think it makes them look like an @ss for lacking class. I would have probably said it to the one chic on the dance floor if the music had not been so loud.
A couple of weekends ago, I was out clubbing with several buddies. I usually like to get on the dance floor and dance with different women to get a feel for them and return to them later to throw them off. On this night, I walked up to one woman and just just started dancing with her just as I always do. She stopped dancing as soon as I
got in front of her and started dancing. She signaled to me that she was going to leave the dance floor immediately. I just raised my hands in a non-defensive manner and let her past, went to the other end of the floor and walked right up to another one and she started grinding/dry-humping the hell out of me on the dance floor. We eventually exchanged numbers and I returned to the dance floor for more dancing.
Moral of the story- save your own face by showing that the cold shoulder is no big deal to you. It happens to the best of em. I like the added touch of saying "have a nice day" because I think it makes them look like an @ss for lacking class. I would have probably said it to the one chic on the dance floor if the music had not been so loud.
While what the guy did generally seems to be the wisest thing to say/do. It's just really bad and the girls took him like a geek. And after being unable to hook up, made some silly comments and left. That's what I feel from observing and what the girls showed.
duke007
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Try sarcastically: "I'm sorry I didn't hear your reply" and put your hand around your ear!
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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Originally posted by Diaoz
While what the guy did generally seems to be the wisest thing to say/do. It's just really bad and the girls took him like a geek. And after being unable to hook up, made some silly comments and left. That's what I feel from observing and what the girls showed.
How can you know how she "took him" if she never said any thing or gave him time of day? You don't think maybe you saw the guy as the geek and assumed that is maybe what she saw also? Did you ask the guy if it was awkward and embarrasing for him or do you just feel that you would be embarrased in that situation? What may be awkward for some is not awkward for a lot of other people. Regular approachers realize that all sorts of rejections comes with the territory.
What would look bad is trying hard to gain her attention after she clearly ignores you or showing that she affected your ego in a negative way.
This has happened to me before too at the clubs. I just write it off as just rudeness and lack of social skills on there part.
I just comment , "wow, you get a 10 for personality (sarcastically)" , then walk away.
That way, she will rethink about her own social skills in public, and you walk away with dignity.
I just comment , "wow, you get a 10 for personality (sarcastically)" , then walk away.
That way, she will rethink about her own social skills in public, and you walk away with dignity.
PuertoRican_Lover
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If a girl ignores you and says nothing, just say, "so you are a 'mute", I don't like talking to mutes, they lack conversational skils". Smile and walk away!
You need to act...
If that happens to you you need to look at the girl like she just took dog do do and smeared it all over her face. Suprise, shock, laughter, feel ashamed for her etc. Visualize it she has freaking dog do do on her face.....lol
Seriously if someone disrespects you like that you need to convey that it is on them. Do it in a nice manner but you need to send a signal that this is not a behavior you accept and other women don't treat you this way. But you also need to convey that you are standing over here and none of that dog do do got on you and you don't want her comming over and sharing the love anymore.
If you truely do it right she will excuse her self go to the bathroom and try and wipe the do do off her face =)
If that happens to you you need to look at the girl like she just took dog do do and smeared it all over her face. Suprise, shock, laughter, feel ashamed for her etc. Visualize it she has freaking dog do do on her face.....lol
Seriously if someone disrespects you like that you need to convey that it is on them. Do it in a nice manner but you need to send a signal that this is not a behavior you accept and other women don't treat you this way. But you also need to convey that you are standing over here and none of that dog do do got on you and you don't want her comming over and sharing the love anymore.
If you truely do it right she will excuse her self go to the bathroom and try and wipe the do do off her face =)