Well Im in a little bit of a bind here. Ive been trying to DJ this girl for a while now, but the problem is alot of guys like her. She is always surrounded by different guys that are always hitting on her, so how am I supposed to get with her if I have to deal with multiple guys as well?
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Dealing with multiple guys
- Thread starter WhAcKeD!
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
rgeere
Master Don Juan
By being the guy who stands out and DRAWS her out to him. She is a spoiled brat apparently so would be rather oblivious to you if you just out right approach her without standing out first.
If guys hit on her but don't go out with her, then be different.
ASK HER ON A DATE.
It's quite simple. Be different. If she's attracted, you'll know. When you're alone with her, make a funny remark, or start to talk to her a bit and then leave. Don't be like the other guys who will stick to the last dying second talking to her in hopes of getting with her. Be a man who knows what he wants and knows how to take it.
So this is what you do. You go up and talk to her, you make a little comment, you have a short conversation. Leave on a high note that will keep her interested in you and leave. Keep her curious as to why you aren't like other guys. She knows the other guys like her, but she isn't quite sure with you. She wants to know what you think and what you want. She has to be INTERESTED in you.
So the time you talk to her after that, have a nice short conversation. Say you have to go and tell her to jot down her number. Call her up and say you're free sometime and you two should get together for coffee. Take her out on a date.
Don't treat her like some goddess that every man wants. Treat her like a bratty little sister. Joke with her, keep her laughing, don't give away your intentions, make her wonder. Leave on a high note once again and if all things go well, you can call back later on and ask for the date.
For girls who get hit on often, you NEED to be different. You need to attract, not pursue. She needs to WANT you and PURSUE you. That is what women crave.
ASK HER ON A DATE.
It's quite simple. Be different. If she's attracted, you'll know. When you're alone with her, make a funny remark, or start to talk to her a bit and then leave. Don't be like the other guys who will stick to the last dying second talking to her in hopes of getting with her. Be a man who knows what he wants and knows how to take it.
So this is what you do. You go up and talk to her, you make a little comment, you have a short conversation. Leave on a high note that will keep her interested in you and leave. Keep her curious as to why you aren't like other guys. She knows the other guys like her, but she isn't quite sure with you. She wants to know what you think and what you want. She has to be INTERESTED in you.
So the time you talk to her after that, have a nice short conversation. Say you have to go and tell her to jot down her number. Call her up and say you're free sometime and you two should get together for coffee. Take her out on a date.
Don't treat her like some goddess that every man wants. Treat her like a bratty little sister. Joke with her, keep her laughing, don't give away your intentions, make her wonder. Leave on a high note once again and if all things go well, you can call back later on and ask for the date.
For girls who get hit on often, you NEED to be different. You need to attract, not pursue. She needs to WANT you and PURSUE you. That is what women crave.
biker_gixxer
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All very good points NRM. I think your 'being a man and knowing hot to take it' comment is the most important, personally.
Be confident. Show her and everyone else for that matter, that you're not impressed by anything going on around you. Be cool, calm and collected. Think Marlin Brando (a younger one of course), James Dean. Be the Alpha Male.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Other guys? What other guys? Get it??? 
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Tiffany twisted
Her mind is Tiffany twisted
She's got the Mercedes bends
She's got a lot of pretty, pretty boys
That she calls friends
How they dance in the courtyard
Sweet summer sweat
Some dance to remember
Some dance to forget
Eagles
Hotel California
Her mind is Tiffany twisted
She's got the Mercedes bends
She's got a lot of pretty, pretty boys
That she calls friends
How they dance in the courtyard
Sweet summer sweat
Some dance to remember
Some dance to forget
Eagles
Hotel California