Well Im in a little bit of a bind here. Ive been trying to DJ this girl for a while now, but the problem is alot of guys like her. She is always surrounded by different guys that are always hitting on her, so how am I supposed to get with her if I have to deal with multiple guys as well?
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Dealing with multiple guys
- Thread starter WhAcKeD!
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
rgeere
Master Don Juan
By being the guy who stands out and DRAWS her out to him. She is a spoiled brat apparently so would be rather oblivious to you if you just out right approach her without standing out first.
If guys hit on her but don't go out with her, then be different.
ASK HER ON A DATE.
It's quite simple. Be different. If she's attracted, you'll know. When you're alone with her, make a funny remark, or start to talk to her a bit and then leave. Don't be like the other guys who will stick to the last dying second talking to her in hopes of getting with her. Be a man who knows what he wants and knows how to take it.
So this is what you do. You go up and talk to her, you make a little comment, you have a short conversation. Leave on a high note that will keep her interested in you and leave. Keep her curious as to why you aren't like other guys. She knows the other guys like her, but she isn't quite sure with you. She wants to know what you think and what you want. She has to be INTERESTED in you.
So the time you talk to her after that, have a nice short conversation. Say you have to go and tell her to jot down her number. Call her up and say you're free sometime and you two should get together for coffee. Take her out on a date.
Don't treat her like some goddess that every man wants. Treat her like a bratty little sister. Joke with her, keep her laughing, don't give away your intentions, make her wonder. Leave on a high note once again and if all things go well, you can call back later on and ask for the date.
For girls who get hit on often, you NEED to be different. You need to attract, not pursue. She needs to WANT you and PURSUE you. That is what women crave.
ASK HER ON A DATE.
It's quite simple. Be different. If she's attracted, you'll know. When you're alone with her, make a funny remark, or start to talk to her a bit and then leave. Don't be like the other guys who will stick to the last dying second talking to her in hopes of getting with her. Be a man who knows what he wants and knows how to take it.
So this is what you do. You go up and talk to her, you make a little comment, you have a short conversation. Leave on a high note that will keep her interested in you and leave. Keep her curious as to why you aren't like other guys. She knows the other guys like her, but she isn't quite sure with you. She wants to know what you think and what you want. She has to be INTERESTED in you.
So the time you talk to her after that, have a nice short conversation. Say you have to go and tell her to jot down her number. Call her up and say you're free sometime and you two should get together for coffee. Take her out on a date.
Don't treat her like some goddess that every man wants. Treat her like a bratty little sister. Joke with her, keep her laughing, don't give away your intentions, make her wonder. Leave on a high note once again and if all things go well, you can call back later on and ask for the date.
For girls who get hit on often, you NEED to be different. You need to attract, not pursue. She needs to WANT you and PURSUE you. That is what women crave.
biker_gixxer
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All very good points NRM. I think your 'being a man and knowing hot to take it' comment is the most important, personally.
Be confident. Show her and everyone else for that matter, that you're not impressed by anything going on around you. Be cool, calm and collected. Think Marlin Brando (a younger one of course), James Dean. Be the Alpha Male.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Other guys? What other guys? Get it??? 
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Tiffany twisted
Her mind is Tiffany twisted
She's got the Mercedes bends
She's got a lot of pretty, pretty boys
That she calls friends
How they dance in the courtyard
Sweet summer sweat
Some dance to remember
Some dance to forget
Eagles
Hotel California
Her mind is Tiffany twisted
She's got the Mercedes bends
She's got a lot of pretty, pretty boys
That she calls friends
How they dance in the courtyard
Sweet summer sweat
Some dance to remember
Some dance to forget
Eagles
Hotel California