Well Im in a little bit of a bind here. Ive been trying to DJ this girl for a while now, but the problem is alot of guys like her. She is always surrounded by different guys that are always hitting on her, so how am I supposed to get with her if I have to deal with multiple guys as well?
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Dealing with multiple guys
- Thread starter WhAcKeD!
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
rgeere
Master Don Juan
By being the guy who stands out and DRAWS her out to him. She is a spoiled brat apparently so would be rather oblivious to you if you just out right approach her without standing out first.
If guys hit on her but don't go out with her, then be different.
ASK HER ON A DATE.
It's quite simple. Be different. If she's attracted, you'll know. When you're alone with her, make a funny remark, or start to talk to her a bit and then leave. Don't be like the other guys who will stick to the last dying second talking to her in hopes of getting with her. Be a man who knows what he wants and knows how to take it.
So this is what you do. You go up and talk to her, you make a little comment, you have a short conversation. Leave on a high note that will keep her interested in you and leave. Keep her curious as to why you aren't like other guys. She knows the other guys like her, but she isn't quite sure with you. She wants to know what you think and what you want. She has to be INTERESTED in you.
So the time you talk to her after that, have a nice short conversation. Say you have to go and tell her to jot down her number. Call her up and say you're free sometime and you two should get together for coffee. Take her out on a date.
Don't treat her like some goddess that every man wants. Treat her like a bratty little sister. Joke with her, keep her laughing, don't give away your intentions, make her wonder. Leave on a high note once again and if all things go well, you can call back later on and ask for the date.
For girls who get hit on often, you NEED to be different. You need to attract, not pursue. She needs to WANT you and PURSUE you. That is what women crave.
ASK HER ON A DATE.
It's quite simple. Be different. If she's attracted, you'll know. When you're alone with her, make a funny remark, or start to talk to her a bit and then leave. Don't be like the other guys who will stick to the last dying second talking to her in hopes of getting with her. Be a man who knows what he wants and knows how to take it.
So this is what you do. You go up and talk to her, you make a little comment, you have a short conversation. Leave on a high note that will keep her interested in you and leave. Keep her curious as to why you aren't like other guys. She knows the other guys like her, but she isn't quite sure with you. She wants to know what you think and what you want. She has to be INTERESTED in you.
So the time you talk to her after that, have a nice short conversation. Say you have to go and tell her to jot down her number. Call her up and say you're free sometime and you two should get together for coffee. Take her out on a date.
Don't treat her like some goddess that every man wants. Treat her like a bratty little sister. Joke with her, keep her laughing, don't give away your intentions, make her wonder. Leave on a high note once again and if all things go well, you can call back later on and ask for the date.
For girls who get hit on often, you NEED to be different. You need to attract, not pursue. She needs to WANT you and PURSUE you. That is what women crave.
biker_gixxer
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All very good points NRM. I think your 'being a man and knowing hot to take it' comment is the most important, personally.
Be confident. Show her and everyone else for that matter, that you're not impressed by anything going on around you. Be cool, calm and collected. Think Marlin Brando (a younger one of course), James Dean. Be the Alpha Male.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Other guys? What other guys? Get it??? 
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Tiffany twisted
Her mind is Tiffany twisted
She's got the Mercedes bends
She's got a lot of pretty, pretty boys
That she calls friends
How they dance in the courtyard
Sweet summer sweat
Some dance to remember
Some dance to forget
Eagles
Hotel California
Her mind is Tiffany twisted
She's got the Mercedes bends
She's got a lot of pretty, pretty boys
That she calls friends
How they dance in the courtyard
Sweet summer sweat
Some dance to remember
Some dance to forget
Eagles
Hotel California