"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Dealing With Miscommunication

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ENIGMA16

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So me and this girl had plans to get a bite last night, and when I made them earlier last week I told her to call me when she gets home (she was on vacation until yesterday). Anyways, last night rolls around and I don't get a call. This morning I wake up and my phone has a text from her at 11:30 PM saying "Hey JLay87. I guess tonight didn't work out. Maybe another time".

This totally sounds to me like she thought I ditched her because I didn't call her, when I thought I made it pretty clear that she was supposed to call me because I didn't know when she was going to be back in town. However, we have also been trying for a while to get together and it's just never worked out. As for her interest level, I can tell that she's interested, so I don't think this is her blowing me off.

How would you deal with this?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Make another date to see her, and clear this up in person.
 
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Yeah, I'm just worried I won't get that chance. I'll call her up later today and see if that's possible.
 
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JLay87 said:
Yeah, I'm just worried I won't get that chance. I'll call her up later today and see if that's possible.
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It's simple actually - tell her to call you in order to evaluate her IL. IMHO you are already low value in her eyes.
 
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If it's a consistant problem, you don't want her. You'd at least want one who could pay attention to directions[what if she forgot to pick up the kids because she didn't listen?]
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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JLay87 said:
Yeah, I'm just worried I won't get that chance. I'll call her up later today and see if that's possible.
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It's a non-issue. If she makes a big deal out of it and doesn't want to see you again, you're better off without her. You don't want to waste your time on women who make a mountain out of a mole hill, and who can't follow simple directions, like sodbuster said.
 
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Yeah its not a big issue. But understand, your are the guy, she is the woman. If you know how to assume your role she will assume hers. Not vice-versa.
 
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