"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Dealing With Miscommunication

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ENIGMA16

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So me and this girl had plans to get a bite last night, and when I made them earlier last week I told her to call me when she gets home (she was on vacation until yesterday). Anyways, last night rolls around and I don't get a call. This morning I wake up and my phone has a text from her at 11:30 PM saying "Hey JLay87. I guess tonight didn't work out. Maybe another time".

This totally sounds to me like she thought I ditched her because I didn't call her, when I thought I made it pretty clear that she was supposed to call me because I didn't know when she was going to be back in town. However, we have also been trying for a while to get together and it's just never worked out. As for her interest level, I can tell that she's interested, so I don't think this is her blowing me off.

How would you deal with this?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Make another date to see her, and clear this up in person.
 
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Yeah, I'm just worried I won't get that chance. I'll call her up later today and see if that's possible.
 
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JLay87 said:
Yeah, I'm just worried I won't get that chance. I'll call her up later today and see if that's possible.
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It's simple actually - tell her to call you in order to evaluate her IL. IMHO you are already low value in her eyes.
 
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If it's a consistant problem, you don't want her. You'd at least want one who could pay attention to directions[what if she forgot to pick up the kids because she didn't listen?]
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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JLay87 said:
Yeah, I'm just worried I won't get that chance. I'll call her up later today and see if that's possible.
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It's a non-issue. If she makes a big deal out of it and doesn't want to see you again, you're better off without her. You don't want to waste your time on women who make a mountain out of a mole hill, and who can't follow simple directions, like sodbuster said.
 
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Yeah its not a big issue. But understand, your are the guy, she is the woman. If you know how to assume your role she will assume hers. Not vice-versa.
 
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