Hey all,
new the the forum after reading much of the website articles.
So here's my deal. I go to a liberal arts college that has a bad guy to girl ratio. its probobly about 5:1 guys:girls.
This has proven itself rather difficult for me because after college had started I broke out of my shell and became alot of more social and personable, basically perfect for the dating scene or a relationship. Now that I do have great things happening for me its still the same situation because there is alot of competition. I dont see myself in the competitive force anymore, I'm merely an individual and I no longer belong to crowds because I think they misrepresent me. I've also developed a huge respect from my peers and people who I may not hangout with daily but everyone seems to think I'm a good person and I'm trustworthy. So I have all the potential in the world.
While there have been many situation in trying to get girls it seems like most of good ones that I would want to be with are either already taken or just coming out of a breakup and they dont want to do anything with men.
The girl that I've recently been perusing has been frustrated with all the guys that have been asking her out. I know this because I received a tip from a good friend(who is female).
So my position right now is doing the exact opposite. I left her alone. I am cheerful and glad to see her when I do on the street or at school, but I dont make an effort to barge into her life like all these other guys. (she said that 15 guys asked her out at once, she's really pretty, lol)
So i feel like i'm doing the right thing by planting the seeds and I plan on telling her soon that its been great getting to know her, then once september of the new school year comes around that we should see more of eachother.
I've been out of coffee with this girl as well as with her at a concert that I knew she was going to be.
Right now I'm still keeping my original idea, but because of being busy I have simply ignored my pursuits(its good because i was about to go crazy).
I know I'm a desirable guy, and I can have girls if I really tryed. This isnt the kind of girl i choose to hook up with I would actually like to develop a good relationship with her and establishing a good connection is key. So my problem isnt really getting laid, but more so getting to the level where I can been seen as a guy that isnt all about sex(which i think most girls will think thats complete BS).
anyways, do any of you have any tips for dealing with the unfair ratio, besides going to other schools?
I would have done that a long time ago (different schools) but I feel that it will be harder to relate because I'm fairly picky I like intellectual girls who can keep me on my toes and vica versa.
Thanks all.
Fleshy
new the the forum after reading much of the website articles.
So here's my deal. I go to a liberal arts college that has a bad guy to girl ratio. its probobly about 5:1 guys:girls.
This has proven itself rather difficult for me because after college had started I broke out of my shell and became alot of more social and personable, basically perfect for the dating scene or a relationship. Now that I do have great things happening for me its still the same situation because there is alot of competition. I dont see myself in the competitive force anymore, I'm merely an individual and I no longer belong to crowds because I think they misrepresent me. I've also developed a huge respect from my peers and people who I may not hangout with daily but everyone seems to think I'm a good person and I'm trustworthy. So I have all the potential in the world.
While there have been many situation in trying to get girls it seems like most of good ones that I would want to be with are either already taken or just coming out of a breakup and they dont want to do anything with men.
The girl that I've recently been perusing has been frustrated with all the guys that have been asking her out. I know this because I received a tip from a good friend(who is female).
So my position right now is doing the exact opposite. I left her alone. I am cheerful and glad to see her when I do on the street or at school, but I dont make an effort to barge into her life like all these other guys. (she said that 15 guys asked her out at once, she's really pretty, lol)
So i feel like i'm doing the right thing by planting the seeds and I plan on telling her soon that its been great getting to know her, then once september of the new school year comes around that we should see more of eachother.
I've been out of coffee with this girl as well as with her at a concert that I knew she was going to be.
Right now I'm still keeping my original idea, but because of being busy I have simply ignored my pursuits(its good because i was about to go crazy).
I know I'm a desirable guy, and I can have girls if I really tryed. This isnt the kind of girl i choose to hook up with I would actually like to develop a good relationship with her and establishing a good connection is key. So my problem isnt really getting laid, but more so getting to the level where I can been seen as a guy that isnt all about sex(which i think most girls will think thats complete BS).
anyways, do any of you have any tips for dealing with the unfair ratio, besides going to other schools?
I would have done that a long time ago (different schools) but I feel that it will be harder to relate because I'm fairly picky I like intellectual girls who can keep me on my toes and vica versa.
Thanks all.
Fleshy