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Dealing with Guy/Girl ratio unfairness

Fleshy99

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Hey all,
new the the forum after reading much of the website articles.

So here's my deal. I go to a liberal arts college that has a bad guy to girl ratio. its probobly about 5:1 guys:girls.
This has proven itself rather difficult for me because after college had started I broke out of my shell and became alot of more social and personable, basically perfect for the dating scene or a relationship. Now that I do have great things happening for me its still the same situation because there is alot of competition. I dont see myself in the competitive force anymore, I'm merely an individual and I no longer belong to crowds because I think they misrepresent me. I've also developed a huge respect from my peers and people who I may not hangout with daily but everyone seems to think I'm a good person and I'm trustworthy. So I have all the potential in the world.

While there have been many situation in trying to get girls it seems like most of good ones that I would want to be with are either already taken or just coming out of a breakup and they dont want to do anything with men.
The girl that I've recently been perusing has been frustrated with all the guys that have been asking her out. I know this because I received a tip from a good friend(who is female).
So my position right now is doing the exact opposite. I left her alone. I am cheerful and glad to see her when I do on the street or at school, but I dont make an effort to barge into her life like all these other guys. (she said that 15 guys asked her out at once, she's really pretty, lol)
So i feel like i'm doing the right thing by planting the seeds and I plan on telling her soon that its been great getting to know her, then once september of the new school year comes around that we should see more of eachother.
I've been out of coffee with this girl as well as with her at a concert that I knew she was going to be.
Right now I'm still keeping my original idea, but because of being busy I have simply ignored my pursuits(its good because i was about to go crazy).
I know I'm a desirable guy, and I can have girls if I really tryed. This isnt the kind of girl i choose to hook up with I would actually like to develop a good relationship with her and establishing a good connection is key. So my problem isnt really getting laid, but more so getting to the level where I can been seen as a guy that isnt all about sex(which i think most girls will think thats complete BS).
anyways, do any of you have any tips for dealing with the unfair ratio, besides going to other schools?
I would have done that a long time ago (different schools) but I feel that it will be harder to relate because I'm fairly picky I like intellectual girls who can keep me on my toes and vica versa.
Thanks all.
Fleshy
 

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I believe you did good in your last year in High School because....you were a Senior.

Now you are 18 or 19 in a College that has a 5:1 ratio against you. The odds are not good at all.

Having said that...I think you are suffering of ONEitis.
 

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Latinoman said:
I believe you did good in your last year in High School because....you were a Senior.

Now you are 18 or 19 in a College that has a 5:1 ratio against you. The odds are not good at all.

Having said that...I think you are suffering of ONEitis.

Yeah man, I've heard of that before. Its totally true. A week from now I'm going home so I wont be in that state of mind anymore. I'll have to find some fling for the summer.
 

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slaog said:
Thats good news about the ratio. If it's 5:1 where you are then there must be alot more women then men in some places.

The only ratio you should be thinking about is the Dj/PUA to AFC ratio! I the AFC's are a big majority there!:crackup:
AFC??? Sorry I'm new to the abbreviations.
 

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Adversity is the fertalizer of success. We've all had the odds stacked against us, your skill and quality of a player is driven by your determination to win with those odds.

If the girl to guy ratio is bad where you are, then you have to learn how to make yourself one of the guys who can handle those odds with out much difficulty. It's not an easy process to achieve by any means but hard work and training will get you where you want to be.
 

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Wow how did you manage to find a college where the guys out number the girls? Most colleges are 60% girls, 40% men. That's 1.5 girls for every guy.
 

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Maxtro said:
Wow how did you manage to find a college where the guys out number the girls? Most colleges are 60% girls, 40% men. That's 1.5 girls for every guy.
Haha yes I know... Its actually a music college consisting of alot of guitar players which are mostly guys. (thats all i can say)

But, I'm actually living in a building next fall which will be occupied by most girls from other school which are overrun by girls.
My roomate made the joke that he'll never have to leave the building, haha.

I'm not that optimistic about this aspect, but it will definitely make life a little more interesting and I'll be happier with more estrogen floating around.

Thanks for the advice to all who have commented. It seems to me that I'm slowly becoming that guy that can survive and be on top of my game in this environment.
Now if I only didnt have this much schoolwork...
 
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