"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Dealing with ******* girls

Bling

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I'm a Freshman in High School. The girl I'm talking about is a Sophomore. I didn't really find this website till about January. Before that, I did some bad damage, and I'm still paying for it.

Around October, I pretty much got over my one-itis, first crush thing. I was so use to having her in my head, that I was confused. Then one time at lunch, I found a girl (Jane) that sparkled to me. Jane wasn't exactly the prettiest, but that olive skin with the dyed red hair and the way she looked at me that one time just made me forget about my previous one-itis. I knew she was older than me, and I loved older women, so that put her even higher on the pedastal (remember this, she's not the prettiest girl, but she got my attention for the dumbest reasons). Later do I found out that same day that one of her best friends is actually a girl in my class that I talk to a lot.

So the AFC told Jane the next day i had a crush on her. I was actually expecting for her to like me. Did she? Uh. No. She made me feel like schmit.


Here's the problem: I'm the most paranoid person I've ever met. I see this girl maybe twice a day in the hall, and everytime I see her I'm convinced she's talking about me or laughing at me as she walks in the opposite direction. Her best friend, however, is a conceided person and hates when I bring up the topic. So is there anyway to forget about it? Does this happen to anyone else? I know I went about this the wrong way when I told her I liked her, but is there anyway of riding this problem?

Thanks for any help.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Best friends? NAY

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The fact is she doesn't like you and never will, she probaly doesn't even recognize you enough to take the time to laugh at you. And if she does it doesn't matter beacuse you will NEVER get with her.
 

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dude chill older classmen have no reason to laugh at younger ones around school. she probably thinks its either cute or creepy depending on what type of girl she is.dude just forget about her and pretend nothin bothers you even if you do otherwise you will look weak.
 

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Originally posted by xomel
Youre AFC too, bud.
Real helpful. you could make a living off advice like that.



Ok listen up. Just forgget about this girl. Act like nothing has happened. I'm not sure what you meant by "everytime I bring it up." JUST DON'T BRING IT UP THEN.

If she bring it up, just play it off casually like, "yea, I used to like her, but you know what I like ice cream too." or "yeah I don't really like her anymore. she's ok I guess."

Play it off like you don't care, and soon you really won' tcare.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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