"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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dealing with compliments

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my current gf compliments me constantly. always saying your so sexy, good in bed etc but then complains that i "never say anything nice to her" or compliment her. sometimes she goes on to say "ur never nice to me"

i told her i give compliments when i feel the need to do so, never forced or out of obligation and that its my nature to do it sparingly.

my question is how do you guys respond to compliments like "your so sexy" without mechanically saying "you are too" but not being dry and saying nothing
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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"i know" "ya i get that alot" etc etc, just keep it light and funny. being humorous is most important, but if you see your chick is tryin to look good for you, tell her. you dont have to be some un-emotional robot that only gives compliments when sosuave says you should
 

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canadianmetalhead said:
"i know" "ya i get that alot" etc etc, just keep it light and funny. being humorous is most important, but if you see your chick is tryin to look good for you, tell her. you dont have to be some un-emotional robot that only gives compliments when sosuave says you should

i do! when she looks beautiful i say it, as i said i say whats on my mind regarding compliments. but she seems like she wants them all the time, evrey 2 min and we all know how annoyed evreyone gets of being over complimented.

ive tried the funny light hearted approach to her compliments, that usually has her saying "ur too ****y" if i respond with "u too" she says ur just saying that out of obligation.

arghhh i kno shes being an attention ***** but shes a great girl but i dont know how to get her to be more secure in herself
 
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ive dealt with girls like this before, and im just going to say dont fall for it. keep on doing what youre doing, if anything its a good thing that it is making tension (the good kind) and making her want to please YOU more and more.
 

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canadianmetalhead said:
ive dealt with girls like this before, and im just going to say dont fall for it. keep on doing what youre doing, if anything its a good thing that it is making tension (the good kind) and making her want to please YOU more and more.
i agree i always though it was good that i have this kind of power over here. on the flip side i wonder if something like this will ruin an otherwise good relationship since as we know, alot of other guys are always willing to overbear a girl with compliments.

she also keeps asking for me to write her a letter of how much she means to me? i asked her if that was some kind of joke like wtf

women.....lunatics
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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hahah you said it man.... and just to re-iterate what you already know..DO NOT write a letter, you can express with words and actions instead

...not to mention its just straight up queer
 

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whats with women almost voluntarily asking u to do things that would prolly turn them off in the end

its like u kno the behavior is wussy and they know it deep down too but when u hold ur ground n refuse, they seem hurt n upset but if you do it their like ew


WOMEN...LUNATICS
 
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they call it the sh1t-test
 

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Giving compliments isn't bad.

It's stressed though for AFC's to be more ****y, since they've likely gone overboard with the compliments and supplication. Otherwise, if you're sincere about it, it's legit.
 

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just say thanks. she should be giving complements without expecting them in return

and it's not a sht test, it's her being needy
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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