Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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dealing with compliments

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my current gf compliments me constantly. always saying your so sexy, good in bed etc but then complains that i "never say anything nice to her" or compliment her. sometimes she goes on to say "ur never nice to me"

i told her i give compliments when i feel the need to do so, never forced or out of obligation and that its my nature to do it sparingly.

my question is how do you guys respond to compliments like "your so sexy" without mechanically saying "you are too" but not being dry and saying nothing
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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"i know" "ya i get that alot" etc etc, just keep it light and funny. being humorous is most important, but if you see your chick is tryin to look good for you, tell her. you dont have to be some un-emotional robot that only gives compliments when sosuave says you should
 

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canadianmetalhead said:
"i know" "ya i get that alot" etc etc, just keep it light and funny. being humorous is most important, but if you see your chick is tryin to look good for you, tell her. you dont have to be some un-emotional robot that only gives compliments when sosuave says you should

i do! when she looks beautiful i say it, as i said i say whats on my mind regarding compliments. but she seems like she wants them all the time, evrey 2 min and we all know how annoyed evreyone gets of being over complimented.

ive tried the funny light hearted approach to her compliments, that usually has her saying "ur too ****y" if i respond with "u too" she says ur just saying that out of obligation.

arghhh i kno shes being an attention ***** but shes a great girl but i dont know how to get her to be more secure in herself
 
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ive dealt with girls like this before, and im just going to say dont fall for it. keep on doing what youre doing, if anything its a good thing that it is making tension (the good kind) and making her want to please YOU more and more.
 

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canadianmetalhead said:
ive dealt with girls like this before, and im just going to say dont fall for it. keep on doing what youre doing, if anything its a good thing that it is making tension (the good kind) and making her want to please YOU more and more.
i agree i always though it was good that i have this kind of power over here. on the flip side i wonder if something like this will ruin an otherwise good relationship since as we know, alot of other guys are always willing to overbear a girl with compliments.

she also keeps asking for me to write her a letter of how much she means to me? i asked her if that was some kind of joke like wtf

women.....lunatics
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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hahah you said it man.... and just to re-iterate what you already know..DO NOT write a letter, you can express with words and actions instead

...not to mention its just straight up queer
 

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whats with women almost voluntarily asking u to do things that would prolly turn them off in the end

its like u kno the behavior is wussy and they know it deep down too but when u hold ur ground n refuse, they seem hurt n upset but if you do it their like ew


WOMEN...LUNATICS
 
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they call it the sh1t-test
 

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Giving compliments isn't bad.

It's stressed though for AFC's to be more ****y, since they've likely gone overboard with the compliments and supplication. Otherwise, if you're sincere about it, it's legit.
 

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just say thanks. she should be giving complements without expecting them in return

and it's not a sht test, it's her being needy
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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