"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Dealing with competition at parties?

the pokemaster

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Has anyone here ever been to a party with friends who are better looking than you. Among us its kind of like a constant competition to see who can get with the most girls.
(I think this is good as it can only make u better at linking girls.)

We all say this isn't a problem. Looks don't really matter once you meet this site. But i've got a problem.

For the past month or more ive been using the ****y and Funny attitude towards girls at parties. This involves teasing them.

My friends who are better looking than me have got with more girls than me (making them popular), kiss girls asses when they are at parties to get with them. I used to copy them and also kiss there asses, i then realised that i did not have the key in making this strategy work. LOOKS.

So now im on the ****y and funny stuff. Im talking to a HB8 and ive got my hand round her waist and shes got her arm round mine. Im leaning in. Im stroking her, eye contact and teasing lol. Yeah so this girl is diggin me.

My better looking friends (who have are quite desired by girls because of popularity and looks) come along and start kissing her ass and so on.

This girl knows they all want her. They are all betterlooking than me. To her friends she would look stupid choosing me over them even if she is attracted to me more.

This kinda makes me think shes thinking:

>this guy im holding is cool and i really like him even tho hes teasing me. my friends and i are always talking about this guys friends but never him. his friends want me. for popularity ill get with them instead of this one im holding right now. i best get away from him!

She ends up getting with my better looking friend instead of me. She ends seeing my friend (for you could say, popularity) and i vanish out the picture. Still without my share of booty.

I kinda feel like the guy who gets his foot in the door only to have his toe broken by it bein slammed shut.:confused:

Should i stop going to parties with betterlooking guys no matter how much they are my friends?

Elti Boi
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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hungry_american

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yeah

I have been there also, it is so annoying. :( Or even worse when I start to get with a girl, my friends tell them something in my past or make fun of me so the girl stops diggin me. :mad:
 

the pokemaster

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yeah...

dat happens to me sometimes also. sometimes i try to hide from them lol. get them in a room quick innit?

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If you're macking a girl and your friend comes over and purposely games her your friends are not friends at all.
 

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I never viewed it that way. I think I am going to set things straight. I will tell them to kiss my :moon: if they dont stop also taking my game. Wingmen are there to help not to **** block eh.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Originally posted by Patrick124
If you're macking a girl and your friend comes over and purposely games her your friends are not friends at all.
Said it perfectly.
 

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guess what ****y does not work its great to throw in a line FROM TIME TO TIME it shows you are not insecure but if its ot often then they get sick of it, although funny is good and other then when you need to be serious you should be funny.
 
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