drift king
Master Don Juan
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- Aug 20, 2006
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I have a tendency in my dates to have a sparse amount of material that only lasts me max 20mins and I find myself getting into LJBF territory cos I end up asking questions about studies and general problems my date is having cos otherwise we just have silence.
If I keep quiet she'll ask me questions but I give half-assed answers and don't really say anything with conviction.. like i'll suddenly go blank mid sentences then mumble something to finish it off then think.. hmm i probably shouldn't have said that.
As a result in sudden bursts I come out with great stuff but then this is all neutralized by my boring monotone conversations which just lowers her interest level and probably LJBF's me.
In these awkward silences is it better to say anything just to keep the convo going or should i play the silence to my advantage?
usually I am thinking of rubbing up on her but sometimes I'm afraid cos it doesn't seem like the appropriate time and I might get a slap.
How do I deal better with the silences? cos when i do feel that pressure and nerves to fill in the silence I end up coming across as desperate and scared.. but if i keep quiet she ends up getting bored and I ruin all my good work.
If I keep quiet she'll ask me questions but I give half-assed answers and don't really say anything with conviction.. like i'll suddenly go blank mid sentences then mumble something to finish it off then think.. hmm i probably shouldn't have said that.
As a result in sudden bursts I come out with great stuff but then this is all neutralized by my boring monotone conversations which just lowers her interest level and probably LJBF's me.
In these awkward silences is it better to say anything just to keep the convo going or should i play the silence to my advantage?
usually I am thinking of rubbing up on her but sometimes I'm afraid cos it doesn't seem like the appropriate time and I might get a slap.
How do I deal better with the silences? cos when i do feel that pressure and nerves to fill in the silence I end up coming across as desperate and scared.. but if i keep quiet she ends up getting bored and I ruin all my good work.