Dealing with anger issues...

[DJMaC23]

So I have an anger issue that I definitely have to deal with...I get so angry at little things that my younger sisters do (or don't do), I find myself stressed out and angry from work (not enough competent help)....any good books or things you guys can recommend to help me with stress and anger?

I already go to the gym regularly, and I always do feel better after there but it's not really helping the problem much. If I were to go see a counselor I would have no clue what to tell them...any advice is appreciated, thank you

 

[MagnuM]

Learn to cope and relax. If it doesn't get better. See someone who can help you manage your anger. Get a hobby or find out what really makes your anger. Where it stems from. Eliminate it if possible.

or...


Xanax is small amounts.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Go to a professional and elaborate on what you said here. Tell them about the specific things that your sisters do that anger you, why you feel slighted at the perceived lack of competency of your coworkers. This will help you determine specifically what things tick you off and you can then look at something specific to help you work on the situation.

 

[Last Man Standing]

The quack of all quacks, Sig Freud, would say it comes from your sexual desire for your mother or some stupid perverted shyt like that!!!

Don't take pills or go to counseling -- you know better than anyone else what the problem and solution is --- take note and tally everytime you get mad and a pattern will appear!!

You'll most likely find the answer to be that you have little patience or low tolerance for certain things! With me it's hors!

 

[MagnuM]

Go to a professional and elaborate on what you said here. Tell them about the specific things that your sisters do that anger you, why you feel slighted at the perceived lack of competency of your coworkers. This will help you determine specifically what things tick you off and you can then look at something specific to help you work on the situation.

Take this man's advice. He knows better. Been on the board longer.

 

[benjiprice]

So I have an anger issue that I definitely have to deal with...I get so angry at little things that my younger sisters do (or don't do), I find myself stressed out and angry from work (not enough competent help)....any good books or things you guys can recommend to help me with stress and anger?

I already go to the gym regularly, and I always do feel better after there but it's not really helping the problem much. If I were to go see a counselor I would have no clue what to tell them...any advice is appreciated, thank you

I've been watching David Deangelo's Deep Inner Game and it covers Anger, Anxiety and Stress. The material is presented by an MD called Dr. Paul. I haven't been able to put any of it into practice yet, so I don't know how effective it is. But at the least it has helped me understand feelings I've had in the past. So if you can get a copy, I would recommend it so that you can partially understand what you're going through.

Concerning the counselor, if he's good, he should be able to led you with the right questions, so I wouldn't be worried about knowing what to say.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Take this man's advice. He knows better. Been on the board longer.

Thanks for the vote of confidence. Don't let tenure be the primary reason though, I just haven't had the need to come back as a reincarnation from an old account.

I'll add something else about not half stepping and trying to solve an anger issue yourself. The underlying reasons for the cause of anger are often misdiagnosed by the general public. At best they self treat the symptoms of anger and just mask the actual cause. They don't understand that anger is a mask for another feeling which they either have not identified or can not emote effectively. This is very frustrating and cause anger.

So I say that if it's important enough to post a concern on an Internet forum, it's important enough to find the underlying reason that's causing the issue. Can someone find out on their own? It's possible but why expend the time and effort in the hopes of finding the solution? Isn't it important enough to get professional help to find the solution more readily?

 

[DJDamage]

Read this:

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=105098&highlight=90/10

 

[Frenchconnection]

I've got a lot of anger in me too. I often internalize it and it ruins me both emotionally and physically.
I'm working on channeling it all out, not easy to do.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

I've got a lot of anger in me too. I often internalize it and it ruins me both emotionally and physically.
I'm working on channeling it all out, not easy to do.

Kinda like trying to focus an ocean wave through a 2 inch pipe by just using a funnel?