Luminescence
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Anyone have tips for dealing with smart ass douche's trying to undermine your social value and status?
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Dealing with alpha wannabe challengers?
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
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Yeah. Honestly, context is everything... It's hard to give advice when we got nothing to work with.
Well, when I HAVE TO deal with douchebags, I like to just start a conversation and ask questions. Keep it cool and collected. Eventually, they trip themselves up by saying something stupid that makes them look like a big *******. Just gotta give them a chance.
You don't want to be aggressive and make the other guy look like a threat. You also don't want to agree with them or relate, or you might be dragged down as well. Just be diplomatic and say as little as possible!
Hope that helps. I know it's kinda vague... but I like to do things on the fly. Not much thinking.
You don't want to be aggressive and make the other guy look like a threat. You also don't want to agree with them or relate, or you might be dragged down as well. Just be diplomatic and say as little as possible!
Hope that helps. I know it's kinda vague... but I like to do things on the fly. Not much thinking.
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slaog said:Your first and main mistake is caring what they say or what people think.
Definitely the most adaptive response. It's the only thing that works every time, but it's less satisfying than directly putting them down in return.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
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Well to be more specific, I'm talking about the type of individual who in a social setting seems to consciously make an effort to present himself as your superior by invalidating you.Sturmblitz said:
If you can't picture any scenarios resembling the above, then perhaps the advice you can provide will not be worth this response.
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Woah bud, I wasn't being a smartass, I'm just trying to offer some help... Giving a few details would never hurt.
That being said, you should respond to said wannabe alpha with coolness and indifference. You can't get worked up about it and get frustrated and confrontational, because then you're allowing him to control your emotions. At the same time, you can't just sit there and let him treat you like a *****. If he makes a kind of smartass remark, stand your ground, but don't be aggressive, because that shows that you feel threatened by him. You've gotta be cool; he's nothing to you. Just give him a smirk or scoff at him, or roll your eyes and just laugh at him when he tries to be boastful. Make it seem like you're just having to put up with his silly antics. Say something to bring him down from his self-proclaimed pedestal, something to diffuse his ego.
Or, a less satisfying alternative, is you can befriend him.
That being said, you should respond to said wannabe alpha with coolness and indifference. You can't get worked up about it and get frustrated and confrontational, because then you're allowing him to control your emotions. At the same time, you can't just sit there and let him treat you like a *****. If he makes a kind of smartass remark, stand your ground, but don't be aggressive, because that shows that you feel threatened by him. You've gotta be cool; he's nothing to you. Just give him a smirk or scoff at him, or roll your eyes and just laugh at him when he tries to be boastful. Make it seem like you're just having to put up with his silly antics. Say something to bring him down from his self-proclaimed pedestal, something to diffuse his ego.
Or, a less satisfying alternative, is you can befriend him.
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