"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Dealing With A Tease

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I met this girl, and she's cool and all... About an HB 7, and she admits to being a tease.

We talk about sex all the time. She talks about having me in her bed. She said she has never had sex before, and she wears one of those promise rings. I asked her, "So you are not gonna have sex until you are married? That's kinda wierd... But I respect that... It's different lol" and she told me, "Well maybe when I want to have sex or when I know I'm in love."

I like a challenge and the best way I see to approach this is to hide signs of the effects of her teasing. THen again I don't have much experience with women who are a tease.

ANyone have any advice on this?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Teasing by using sexuality is just another s#it test....and the rule for those is: don't react. Sometimes a girl will be overtly sexually flirtatious with a guy and the guy will think it's ok to pursue b/c he has it in the bag...this is wrong because it plays into her frame and gives her the power.

In your situation, it may be best to let this one go and don't push the sex issue...she's a nice girl with a promise ring, and sometimes it just ain't worth the chase! Oddly enough, the minute you stop acting interested in her sexually is probably the moment that she considers you for such an endeavor...the joys of psychology...
 
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Jeffst1980 said:
Teasing by using sexuality is just another s#it test....and the rule for those is: don't react. Sometimes a girl will be overtly sexually flirtatious with a guy and the guy will think it's ok to pursue b/c he has it in the bag...this is wrong because it plays into her frame and gives her the power.

In your situation, it may be best to let this one go and don't push the sex issue...she's a nice girl with a promise ring, and sometimes it just ain't worth the chase! Oddly enough, the minute you stop acting interested in her sexually is probably the moment that she considers you for such an endeavor...the joys of psychology...
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I like your view on things man!

Is there anyone else that has succeeding in winning over a girl like this? SHe's already attracted to me physically.. We both think we're attractive.. lol
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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If a girl is going to talk about sex to me. I pursue as long as i see fit. After all it's the perfect opportunity for me to talk dirty to her and 90% of the time it WORKS. Just do it in a way where you don't make her feel like a SLUT.

Another thing i always do is to make sure that when we talk about sex, it's about how badly she WANTS to do it WITH ME. Not the other way around. Yes, i'm a guy and YES we do think about SEX 120 hours a day. But it doesn't necessarily mean that I'm going to bone her. She isn't the only vagina in the world so i won't treat her like she's the only vagina in the world. There ARE others.
 
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