"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Dealing with a Nervous/Jittery Girl

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I will try to keep this short...

I've been talking to this girl for the past week and a half after getting her number. Last night she wanted to go see a movie, I tried to get her to go somewhere else, but I folded like a little *****.

We met up she was really jittery, nervous, didn't make alot of eye contact (she said she doesn't like to), and continuously played with her hair while looking around. I didn't think she was into me.

During the movie she was wrapping her legs around mine, locking arms....ect After the movie, its the same nervous ****.

We hung out afterwards, I did alot of c/f and she loved it, I would compliment her she would blush and look away. I told her I was leaving b/c she was being a ***** and she would pull me back. We ended up making out... Am I reading too much into her nervous/jittery actions?

Anyone have experience with girls like this? Her mannerism seem like she's not interested in me, but I don't know if thats just how she is. I'm usually good at reading women, but this one is over my head.
 

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And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

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Sounds like she's absolutely into you bro.

Might as well take her somewhere next time where you can try for the old f-close.
 

The Sperminator

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Nah man shes totally into shes just shy. It will probably be a few more dates before she gets comfortable around you.
 

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If you notice, when you are watching the movie, she wraps her legs around you. But after the movie she is nervous. Why? Because in the movie you guys both have an alternate focal point aside from each other. She needs the other distraction to feel comfortable.

So, keep her in a situation where she has something besides you to focus on, and then she will focus on you.

To close her, I would rent a movie to watch at your house. Basically the movie provides her a distraction and comfort zone, and you are free to move it along.

What you have to decide is whether to close her on the couch, or risk moving her to the bedroom. In there it will be just you and her again. Possibly not the greatest scenario.
 

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When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

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I.A.F.Y.B.

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Don't worry she's into you. She is just nervous to be in your presence!
 
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Jason88 said:
During the movie she was wrapping her legs around mine, locking arms....ect After the movie, its the same nervous shyt.
Wrapped her legs around yours? HUH?? She must have "Restless Leg Syndrome" - either that or she likes you!!!

She is not shy and this isn't a sign of nervousness!! When was the last time you were nervous and wrapped your legs around someone?? It doesn't happen!!!

She is putting on a "front" trying to act innocent - don't fall for it!!!
 
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Last Man Standing said:
Wrapped her legs around yours? HUH?? She must have "Restless Leg Syndrome" - either that or she likes you!!!

She is not shy and this isn't a sign of nervousness!! When was the last time you were nervous and wrapped your legs around someone?? It doesn't happen!!!

She is putting on front trying to act innocent - don't fall for it!!!
I dont think so - I think it's more along the lines of what I said. In my experience, nervous girls act like this often.
 
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Dongfu said:
If you notice, when you are watching the movie, she wraps her legs around you. But after the movie she is nervous. Why? Because in the movie you guys both have an alternate focal point aside from each other. She needs the other distraction to feel comfortable.

So, keep her in a situation where she has something besides you to focus on, and then she will focus on you.

To close her, I would rent a movie to watch at your house. Basically the movie provides her a distraction and comfort zone, and you are free to move it along.

What you have to decide is whether to close her on the couch, or risk moving her to the bedroom. In there it will be just you and her again. Possibly not the greatest scenario.
Yes, you have a valid point - under the cover of darkness inhibitions are done away with!!
 

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Dongfu said:
If you notice, when you are watching the movie, she wraps her legs around you. But after the movie she is nervous. Why? Because in the movie you guys both have an alternate focal point aside from each other. She needs the other distraction to feel comfortable.

So, keep her in a situation where she has something besides you to focus on, and then she will focus on you.

To close her, I would rent a movie to watch at your house. Basically the movie provides her a distraction and comfort zone, and you are free to move it along.

What you have to decide is whether to close her on the couch, or risk moving her to the bedroom. In there it will be just you and her again. Possibly not the greatest scenario.
Yeah you make some really good points. I'm mostly experienced with more outgoing girls and after reading everything and thinking about it some more I can see her being into me. We talked today and are going out later this week so we will see what happens.
 

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Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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She wants you bad, she just doesn't feel like you are moving along as fast as she would like..
 

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so do you think she is so into you that she is nervous around you OR do you think she is neurotic?
 

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penkitten said:
so do you think she is so into you that she is nervous around you OR do you think she is neurotic?
lol I thought maybe she was anxious yeah...thats why I'm alittle confused about all this. Maybe she has alittle panic disorder or something that is giving off the wrong signs.

If I take her phone conservations + the affection she has shown I would definitely say she likes me. But, Her mannerisms have me thinking differently sometimes
 
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