"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Dealing with a Nervous/Jittery Girl

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I will try to keep this short...

I've been talking to this girl for the past week and a half after getting her number. Last night she wanted to go see a movie, I tried to get her to go somewhere else, but I folded like a little *****.

We met up she was really jittery, nervous, didn't make alot of eye contact (she said she doesn't like to), and continuously played with her hair while looking around. I didn't think she was into me.

During the movie she was wrapping her legs around mine, locking arms....ect After the movie, its the same nervous ****.

We hung out afterwards, I did alot of c/f and she loved it, I would compliment her she would blush and look away. I told her I was leaving b/c she was being a ***** and she would pull me back. We ended up making out... Am I reading too much into her nervous/jittery actions?

Anyone have experience with girls like this? Her mannerism seem like she's not interested in me, but I don't know if thats just how she is. I'm usually good at reading women, but this one is over my head.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Sounds like she's absolutely into you bro.

Might as well take her somewhere next time where you can try for the old f-close.
 

The Sperminator

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Nah man shes totally into shes just shy. It will probably be a few more dates before she gets comfortable around you.
 

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If you notice, when you are watching the movie, she wraps her legs around you. But after the movie she is nervous. Why? Because in the movie you guys both have an alternate focal point aside from each other. She needs the other distraction to feel comfortable.

So, keep her in a situation where she has something besides you to focus on, and then she will focus on you.

To close her, I would rent a movie to watch at your house. Basically the movie provides her a distraction and comfort zone, and you are free to move it along.

What you have to decide is whether to close her on the couch, or risk moving her to the bedroom. In there it will be just you and her again. Possibly not the greatest scenario.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I.A.F.Y.B.

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Don't worry she's into you. She is just nervous to be in your presence!
 
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Jason88 said:
During the movie she was wrapping her legs around mine, locking arms....ect After the movie, its the same nervous shyt.
Wrapped her legs around yours? HUH?? She must have "Restless Leg Syndrome" - either that or she likes you!!!

She is not shy and this isn't a sign of nervousness!! When was the last time you were nervous and wrapped your legs around someone?? It doesn't happen!!!

She is putting on a "front" trying to act innocent - don't fall for it!!!
 
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Last Man Standing said:
Wrapped her legs around yours? HUH?? She must have "Restless Leg Syndrome" - either that or she likes you!!!

She is not shy and this isn't a sign of nervousness!! When was the last time you were nervous and wrapped your legs around someone?? It doesn't happen!!!

She is putting on front trying to act innocent - don't fall for it!!!
I dont think so - I think it's more along the lines of what I said. In my experience, nervous girls act like this often.
 
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Dongfu said:
If you notice, when you are watching the movie, she wraps her legs around you. But after the movie she is nervous. Why? Because in the movie you guys both have an alternate focal point aside from each other. She needs the other distraction to feel comfortable.

So, keep her in a situation where she has something besides you to focus on, and then she will focus on you.

To close her, I would rent a movie to watch at your house. Basically the movie provides her a distraction and comfort zone, and you are free to move it along.

What you have to decide is whether to close her on the couch, or risk moving her to the bedroom. In there it will be just you and her again. Possibly not the greatest scenario.
Yes, you have a valid point - under the cover of darkness inhibitions are done away with!!
 

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Dongfu said:
If you notice, when you are watching the movie, she wraps her legs around you. But after the movie she is nervous. Why? Because in the movie you guys both have an alternate focal point aside from each other. She needs the other distraction to feel comfortable.

So, keep her in a situation where she has something besides you to focus on, and then she will focus on you.

To close her, I would rent a movie to watch at your house. Basically the movie provides her a distraction and comfort zone, and you are free to move it along.

What you have to decide is whether to close her on the couch, or risk moving her to the bedroom. In there it will be just you and her again. Possibly not the greatest scenario.
Yeah you make some really good points. I'm mostly experienced with more outgoing girls and after reading everything and thinking about it some more I can see her being into me. We talked today and are going out later this week so we will see what happens.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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She wants you bad, she just doesn't feel like you are moving along as fast as she would like..
 

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so do you think she is so into you that she is nervous around you OR do you think she is neurotic?
 

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penkitten said:
so do you think she is so into you that she is nervous around you OR do you think she is neurotic?
lol I thought maybe she was anxious yeah...thats why I'm alittle confused about all this. Maybe she has alittle panic disorder or something that is giving off the wrong signs.

If I take her phone conservations + the affection she has shown I would definitely say she likes me. But, Her mannerisms have me thinking differently sometimes
 
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