Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Dealing with 2nd date flake

FlipM0de

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First date was pretty good, called her after 2 days to set up the a second and got canceled a few hours before, I didn't even bothered texting back and went out with my friends for a drink.

A week past since the first date.

I think about calling her in a few days like nothing happened without suggesting another date just to feel the vibe.

How do you usually handle flakes without killing the momentum?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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backseatjuan

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Maybe she had to cancel something very important come up. Flake is when no cancelation notice is given, that's rejection. Of course reschudle!
 

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FlipM0de said:
First date was pretty good, called her after 2 days to set up the a second and got canceled a few hours before, I didn't even bothered texting back and went out with my friends for a drink.

A week past since the first date.

I think about calling her in a few days like nothing happened without suggesting another date just to feel the vibe.

How do you usually handle flakes without killing the momentum?
a week passed and she hasn't said anything might be a sign it's time to next her. I might be wrong though.
 

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Mauser96 said:
Explain what the cancellation said. How it was done. Like another poster said, a cancellation can be ok, life happens.

I called her on Thursday and we agreed to set a date to Friday and if something will come up we'll let each other know. We didn't set any exact time and decided to talk on Friday. Around 6PM she texted me saying "Meeting today isn't working so well for me..."
 

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So today is Monday, give her a call to feel things then think quick. It's best to date when it's dark, more action. If she sounds fun just say you'll pick her up in 40 minutes.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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