"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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dealing w/ HB9 w/ a bf

l23

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hey guys. I'm in college right now n I got the digits of an hb9.5. when she was giving me the digits she said " I have a bf but it's ok". appearantly her bf is not even in the stave where we live. I need some tips about how to make her my gf since we're friends right now.
PS: we've been talking for a week now
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Chipleader

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If you're true friends then its too late. You are already in the lost abyss that is LJBF zone.
 

I.A.F.Y.B.

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l23 said:
hey guys. I'm in college right now n I got the digits of an hb9.5. when she was giving me the digits she said " I have a bf but it's ok". appearantly her bf is not even in the stave where we live. I need some tips about how to make her my gf since we're friends right now.
PS: we've been talking for a week now
I will tell you something from my experience. Pretty much the same situation your in.

I met this girl who I got her number from. We hung out and I was spitting mad game at her. But, she had a boyfriend in another state. I didn't let this bother me so, I kept creating interest in her. So, after a little while of knowing her we started fvcking each other. By the way.. We didn;t have sex until like 2-3 weeks after of knowing each other. It takes time and patients with girls.

To make a long story short. We never became boyfriend and girlfriend. We were just fvck buddys. Because, eventually she moved back to her hometown where her boyfriend was living. I still communicate with her once in awhile because, we became pretty good friends besides the sex.

Since, she does have a boyfriend I would not get too attached to her. The same thing that happend to me could happend to you. Thankfully, I was spinning other plates so, I had other girls to fall back on when she left.

My advice would be to just become fvck buddys with her. Unless, she offically tells you that she broke up with her boyfriend and now wants to be with you.. So, just do your thang and see what happens.
 

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Not gonna happen

You're already in the friend zone. Maybe she didn't wanna hurt your feelings so you got lucky and got the number.

I'd make a move on her anyway. Might as well have her walk away from you so you know for sure if she's interested.
 

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crazy... i just posted my thread "c0ck-teasel" without seeing this one... i'm pretty much in the same boat.. only two diffrences.

1. I really dont care to break her up with her current bf to be with her. (althought im considering that more and more)

2. we aint really LJBF, its chemistry between us, and a weird flirty sexual fighting vibe, haha.


.. i dont know man, im confussed by it all. but its cool that we both posted these threads at the same time. Good luck with your hussy....
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Have you gone out with her alone, as in just you and her?

Have you kissed her yet? If yes, how far have you gotten? If no, why not?

Escalation attempts are the best litmus tests.
 

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l23 said:
hey guys. I'm in college right now n I got the digits of an hb9.5. when she was giving me the digits she said " I have a bf but it's ok".
What is ok?
 
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