Dealing w/ a shy and innocent type

[kamikaze205]

I ****ed up pretty badly and now i've got a bad case of oneitis. Met this girl through mutual friends and things went pretty well. I see her around school very often too. I could tell she was attracted to me. We end up at a party together and hit it off. Lots of flirting and touching and i was almost sure something was going to happen.

The night ended without anything happening and i didn't really understand why. I was almost sure that I was at least going to make out with her based on her behavior. I found out later that the girl is completely innocent!!! As in never had a boyfriend, and for sure a virgin! She turned away all my attempts to escalate past cuddling. Got her number and told her i would reach out. Her friend was also at the party and she's had a thing for me for awhile. She saw all of it and walked her home.

This is where it all fell apart since i'm not used to dealing with this type of girl. I was genuinely very interested in her and decided to move slowly based on the advice of my friends. So instead of asking to hangout one on one, i stuck to group hangouts and seeing her around school (uni). This turned out to be a bad move on my part because the girl who had the hots for me became best friends with her lol. Any time i was around her she was ****ing right there too.

This is pretty much where i friendzoned myself. She was feeling embarrassed and acting slightly awkward after that night and I couldn't ease the tension because of the group setting. Her unease put me off my game and that's where the afc **** started coming up.

We found out we had a lot of mutual friends and I met them all and became good friends with them. Throughout this time i noticed lots of signs of hot/cold behavior. Bad signs were, lack of eye contact, flaking (1 on 1), and never initiating texts. If i texted her replies took awhile but were very long and flirty.

She also knows my ex. I learned from a few friends that my ex warned her about me before that party. Before i knew it, i had completely stopped focusing on my other plates. They got cold and dipped out and here i am with a ****ty case of oneitis. I decided to just say **** it and cut my losses. Deleted her number and started focusing on other things.

Was working real well for awhile until last friday. I was at a small kickback and she ended up being there. Drank a bit too much and history repeated itself. Lots of flirting and touching but leading nowhere. I also said some really ****ing stupid afc **** to her while piss drunk. Not full blown confession but let's say her ego is so ****ing inflated right now.

My friend is telling me to let this one go and move on. I haven't texted her in weeks and haven't spoken to her since last friday. What does sosuave recommend that i do?

Also, can anyone give me any advice in case i run into this issue again? You normally don't run into inexperienced girls at this stage in life but you never know. I just don't wanna repeat the same **** all over again.

TLDR Version:

Met a shy/innocent girl through mutual friends. Decided to take things slow and friendzoned the **** out of myself. Her best friend probably didn't help since she had the hots for me. Ex talked **** about me behind my back. Failed to lead and acted like an afc. Do i call it quits?

 

[stevo]

You're focusing on why she wouldnt/hasnt fcuked you. Not good.

There are no innocents my friend. There are out right freaks and yet to be discovered freaks. You'll get fooled by appearance, dont buy into it.

You were sure something would happen? did you kiss her and she turned away? Did you try to move her away from the crowd to somewhere quiet and she refused? did you decide this is the girl you want and would go after completely forgetting the other one who's crushing on you?

Forget seeking a relationship. Forget what people think.

If you run into her, keep it casual. Keep to yourself a bit, let people pry things out of you. Let her come talk to you.

If youre trying to score, it'd be wise to not get piss drunk. One beer and done.

Her nipples should be what youre getting in your mouth not another vodka shot.

 

[SmooveMooves]

If she truly is an inexperienced, prude chick, it will never work. Trust me, I dated one and I only did because she was a smoke show. But she might as well had worn a chastity belt because there was no cracking that. She was just to nervous, insecure, and scared.

So I dumped her ass. Sure enough, when somebody who had the patience to wait around 1 year and smash, she wasn't a prude shy chick anymore.

Unless your that guy, find a chick whose going to fūck you.

 

[Anima]

Her nipples should be what youre getting in your mouth not another vodka shot.

That is the best thing I've read in my entire life.

 

[VladPatton]

#1: Never do group hangouts. Those are not dates. Those are friendly get togethers.

#2: Shy? Virgin? Prude? What? Forget this girl. Laying her will be like wrestling a water-filled Hefty bag. Not worth it, and you'll bang 5 others in the time it takes to crack her. Tell her to contact you when she gets some miles under her puss.

 

[kamikaze205]

Tried to kiss her and she turned her head away. I took that as a sign that she wouldn't be down to move to a more quiet location. I took into account the other girl but wanted this one more. (hotter by at least two numbers)

Thank you for the advice man. Gonna forget about going for this girl and look at other options. I actually ran into her today. I was studying at the cafe and she came over to chit chat. Was pretty casual and gonna leave it like that.

Gonna keep to myself and fix my urge to get hammered at parties. Pretty sure it messes with my ability to move the girls to different locations.

You're focusing on why she wouldnt/hasnt fcuked you. Not good.

There are no innocents my friend. There are out right freaks and yet to be discovered freaks. You'll get fooled by appearance, dont buy into it.

You were sure something would happen? did you kiss her and she turned away? Did you try to move her away from the crowd to somewhere quiet and she refused? did you decide this is the girl you want and would go after completely forgetting the other one who's crushing on you?

Forget seeking a relationship. Forget what people think.

If you run into her, keep it casual. Keep to yourself a bit, let people pry things out of you. Let her come talk to you.

If youre trying to score, it'd be wise to not get piss drunk. One beer and done.

Her nipples should be what youre getting in your mouth not another vodka shot.

 

[kamikaze205]

I'm pretty sure she's as inexperienced as my friend makes her out to be. I've got that hard core oneitis **** going on but i know what i have to do. Won't hit her up or go out of my way to interact with her.

My only question is, do i just ignore her if she decides to get touchy with me at parties? My natural instinct when a girl does that is to go for it. At the same time, I don't wanna be that idiot that feeds the girls ego without getting something out of it. Done it twice and does not feel good man. Do i just watch my alcohol, escalate, and move to a different location? Or do i just say **** it, grab my balls, and ignore her?

If she truly is an inexperienced, prude chick, it will never work. Trust me, I dated one and I only did because she was a smoke show. But she might as well had worn a chastity belt because there was no cracking that. She was just to nervous, insecure, and scared.

So I dumped her ass. Sure enough, when somebody who had the patience to wait around 1 year and smash, she wasn't a prude shy chick anymore.

Unless your that guy, find a chick whose going to fūck you.

 

[johnywhite17]

I'm pretty sure she's as inexperienced as my friend makes her out to be. I've got that hard core oneitis **** going on but i know what i have to do. Won't hit her up or go out of my way to interact with her.

My only question is, do i just ignore her if she decides to get touchy with me at parties? My natural instinct when a girl does that is to go for it. At the same time, I don't wanna be that idiot that feeds the girls ego without getting something out of it. Done it twice and does not feel good man. Do i just watch my alcohol, escalate, and move to a different location? Or do i just say **** it, grab my balls, and ignore her?

Do whatever the **** you want. It won't change a damn thing so why do you care... that's why she's not into, hesitation and lack of balls. Has nothing to do with how many ****s she's been aqauinted with previously.

 

[Infern0]

You saw most of your own mistakes which was good.

Essentially you perused her too much. It doesn't matter if she's a virgin or what, if you build attraction enough she'll want you to deflower her which is always fun. Don't treat her any different from any other girl, it'll take a little more time to lay her, but there's no reason she shouldn't be a plate.

As soon as I hear oneitis you know you fvcked up.