"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Dealing w/ a not-so-straight answer

What's the correct course of action to a vague response for a date request?

  • Tell her that next time you'd appreciate a straight answer in an effort to show you have a spine.

    Votes: 3 23.1%

  • Call once or twice more before the weekend is over just in case and risk appearing needy.

    Votes: 0 0.0%

  • Ignore it and try again next week.

    Votes: 10 76.9%
  • Total voters
    13
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Slickster

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"Call me Friday" sounds like she's waiting to see if something better comes up.

If her interest level was high she would gladly accept the date.

Sounds like there is more work to do here.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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just tell her "Forget about it, I'll hang out with someone else." Her answer to that will tell you exactly just how much she's into you (or not).
 
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Tell her this in a slightly angry, frustrated tone:

"Look, if you have plans, say so. If you don't want to go out, say so. I have things going on this weekend, and I was just trying to make a little time for you."

Make it sound like you were doing her a favor. It also tells her that you have a spine, and you aren't sitting at home hoping some one calls you.
 
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jester1x

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Originally posted by Slickster
"Call me Friday" sounds like she's waiting to see if something better comes up.

If her interest level was high she would gladly accept the date.

Sounds like there is more work to do here.
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Please stop while you are ahead. Anything, but a flat-out "Yes" means "No." Her interest level is low and it'll take much work to get it any higher. That is, if it's possible to get it any higher. Plenty of women out there. Save yourself the hassle and find someone who you don't have to put as much effort into. Believe me, the rewards won't justify the effort.
 
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Originally posted by jester1x
Please stop while you are ahead. Anything, but a flat-out "Yes" means "No." Her interest level is low and it'll take much work to get it any higher. That is, if it's possible to get it any higher. Plenty of women out there. Save yourself the hassle and find someone who you don't have to put as much effort into. Believe me, the rewards won't justify the effort.
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Good response here, I second that response. Basically, anything pushy makes you come off as desperate. What girl would want to feel forced for a direct answer? Read the signs, know you read the bible, and move on.

Alternatively, ignore her and try again another time (interest levels change, and will only go up if you ignore her.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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