"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Dealing w/ a not-so-straight answer

What's the correct course of action to a vague response for a date request?

  • Tell her that next time you'd appreciate a straight answer in an effort to show you have a spine.

    Votes: 3 23.1%

  • Call once or twice more before the weekend is over just in case and risk appearing needy.

    Votes: 0 0.0%

  • Ignore it and try again next week.

    Votes: 10 76.9%
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Slickster

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"Call me Friday" sounds like she's waiting to see if something better comes up.

If her interest level was high she would gladly accept the date.

Sounds like there is more work to do here.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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just tell her "Forget about it, I'll hang out with someone else." Her answer to that will tell you exactly just how much she's into you (or not).
 
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WaterTiger

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Tell her this in a slightly angry, frustrated tone:

"Look, if you have plans, say so. If you don't want to go out, say so. I have things going on this weekend, and I was just trying to make a little time for you."

Make it sound like you were doing her a favor. It also tells her that you have a spine, and you aren't sitting at home hoping some one calls you.
 
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jester1x

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Originally posted by Slickster
"Call me Friday" sounds like she's waiting to see if something better comes up.

If her interest level was high she would gladly accept the date.

Sounds like there is more work to do here.
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Please stop while you are ahead. Anything, but a flat-out "Yes" means "No." Her interest level is low and it'll take much work to get it any higher. That is, if it's possible to get it any higher. Plenty of women out there. Save yourself the hassle and find someone who you don't have to put as much effort into. Believe me, the rewards won't justify the effort.
 
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Originally posted by jester1x
Please stop while you are ahead. Anything, but a flat-out "Yes" means "No." Her interest level is low and it'll take much work to get it any higher. That is, if it's possible to get it any higher. Plenty of women out there. Save yourself the hassle and find someone who you don't have to put as much effort into. Believe me, the rewards won't justify the effort.
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Good response here, I second that response. Basically, anything pushy makes you come off as desperate. What girl would want to feel forced for a direct answer? Read the signs, know you read the bible, and move on.

Alternatively, ignore her and try again another time (interest levels change, and will only go up if you ignore her.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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