"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Deadly accurate advice here.

SamTheHobit

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A month or two back I posted about this girl that I've been on and off with for a few years.

Anyway we got back together and a month in she started acting really distant etc..

So she broke up with me two months back, no surprise there.

A lot of you guys said there was another guy in the picture.

And I found out yesterday that there was/is. Lol

Well after finding out. I told her she's dead to me and that I fvcking hate her.

I really just felt like telling her what I think of her. And I meant it she will never get back in my life.

Anyway the advice here is really fvcking accurate sometimes and has made me less skeptical.

This women has consumed my thoughts for years and I hope I've come out a better person. A little more jaded, yeah.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Good for you telling her what you think of her. Not that it makes any difference to her because she'll find a way to rationalize her behavior, but still there's some closure for you.
 
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Can you link that post? I'm interested in the replies and story.

SamTheHobit said:
Well after finding out. I told her she's dead to me and that I fvcking hate her.

I really just felt like telling her what I think of her. And I meant it she will never get back in my life.
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I don't know what she put you through, but I personally believe that staying silent/no contact would of sent her that exact same message and more.
 
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SamTheHobit said:
I told her she's dead to me and that I fvcking hate her.

I really just felt like telling her what I think of her.
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It's ok to feel that way, but it doesn't help anything to tell a girl off like that. All it really says is that you cared for her, and you're emotionally not over her.

If you're trying to hurt her, aloofness and acting like you had genuinely forgotten like you cared for her are much more damaging insults than any mean thing you can say to her.
 
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Usually I'm a pro at no contact. But her actions called for it.

I doubt it will "hurt her" or effect her in anyway.

I just don't care. I needed to say it to her.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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