"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Deadly accurate advice here.

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A month or two back I posted about this girl that I've been on and off with for a few years.

Anyway we got back together and a month in she started acting really distant etc..

So she broke up with me two months back, no surprise there.

A lot of you guys said there was another guy in the picture.

And I found out yesterday that there was/is. Lol

Well after finding out. I told her she's dead to me and that I fvcking hate her.

I really just felt like telling her what I think of her. And I meant it she will never get back in my life.

Anyway the advice here is really fvcking accurate sometimes and has made me less skeptical.

This women has consumed my thoughts for years and I hope I've come out a better person. A little more jaded, yeah.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Good for you telling her what you think of her. Not that it makes any difference to her because she'll find a way to rationalize her behavior, but still there's some closure for you.
 

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Can you link that post? I'm interested in the replies and story.

SamTheHobit said:
Well after finding out. I told her she's dead to me and that I fvcking hate her.

I really just felt like telling her what I think of her. And I meant it she will never get back in my life.

I don't know what she put you through, but I personally believe that staying silent/no contact would of sent her that exact same message and more.
 

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SamTheHobit said:
I told her she's dead to me and that I fvcking hate her.

I really just felt like telling her what I think of her.

It's ok to feel that way, but it doesn't help anything to tell a girl off like that. All it really says is that you cared for her, and you're emotionally not over her.

If you're trying to hurt her, aloofness and acting like you had genuinely forgotten like you cared for her are much more damaging insults than any mean thing you can say to her.
 

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Usually I'm a pro at no contact. But her actions called for it.

I doubt it will "hurt her" or effect her in anyway.

I just don't care. I needed to say it to her.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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