"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Deactivated Facebook after break up -> Immature?

Lion1985

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Im at the 122th Day of NC.

Because I dont wanted to unfriend or block my ex from my FB i found an compromise

-> I deactivted my FB at the 52th day of NC

With that move I wanted tho heal and also "dissapear" completely.

Wanted to show that i not stalk, not giving a ****......

Also not wanted her to see any updates from my life -> Creating curiosity, Mystery (I read somewhere a womans imagination will make her crazy)

But since some days doubts stray in my mind if that was the right move:

What if she thinks that this move was because I cant handle the break up?

What if she thinks that this move shows how immature and childish I am?

What if she thinks that the move shows how desperate I am and instead of creating doubts, curiosity, mystery in her head it doeas feed her ego?

I know NC is about me, I know I should dont give a single fvuck what she thinks, I know I should not analyze every single sh!t, but...

I just want to know your opinioin guys:

Was deactivating my FB account at a psycholigical point view a clever move, it will create curiosity, mystery and her imagination will make her think about it, or it does feed her ego because she thinks it was a desperate move?

Thanks very much guys!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Fireballs

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I know NC is about me, I know I should dont give a single fvuck what she thinks, I know I should not analyze every single sh!t
You answered your own question. ^^^^

I would never deactivate my fb because of a girl. I would either unfriend her or just have self control and not go onto her page.
 

Cerwin Vega

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Ideally, you shouldn't give a d@mn about what she thinks of you.

In reality, what happens is she probably doesn't give a d@mn about you if she hasn't contacted you yet. Sorry bro.
 

Lion1985

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Fireballs said:
You answered your own question. ^^^^

I would never deactivate my fb because of a girl. I would either unfriend her or just have self control and not go onto her page.
Well I used FB very rarely, I never was depended on this sh!t, so it was not a big deal.

10 weeks passed since the deactivation, so if her ego should be feeded back then it is hopefully already cooled down.

And no, it was not only about her, as mentioned, i dont relly needed it, it was time wasting..

Im just a little bit scared that this move was in her "ego favor".

But maybe this "dissapering" will "catalyse" her imagination...who knows, some psychologists there? hehe..


CerwinVegaFan said:
Ideally, you shouldn't give a d@mn about what she thinks of you.

In reality, what happens is she probably doesn't give a d@mn about you if she hasn't contacted you yet. Sorry bro.
Yeah possible, 4 months of NC is nothing... from month 6 it will be interesting, my theory based on experiences with other exes and storys from the internet.
 

Lion1985

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MidnightCity said:
you sound like a complete bltch made baby. you bltch baby

stop the whining mental masterbatin. clear your mind and stop being an complete AFC for 10 fuking minutes.

drop your c0ck and grab your socks. todays a new day monica.

grab your ipod and your running shoes, create a moto playlist and jog till you hurl. or go hit the gym and lift some weights. or build a new tool shed. go bang a hot hooker. get in shape and stop giving a fuk about whats going through your exs mind. its OVER. there is no going back.

youre too invested and you need to sever the ties. your not a fuking fetus anymore you will NEVER find mommies love and security again. those days are GONE. all thats left in this life is you and your balls. so you either sack up and accept this fact and understand that life is a struggle and things will never go back to the way they were and you keep on truckin or just get out the way of everyone else whos swinging back!
Hehe, wow, that was intense, thanks man, I needed something like this
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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