"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Dating two at the same time?

sozzz

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Sup guys,

It's been a yr and a half since I post on here. The last time when I posted here was how to get the girl that I liked to be mine. Now that we have been together for almost 2 yrs now, I feel like dating some other people.

Anyway, lately, there's this girl who I have seen on campus that has been staring at me out. When we are far away, I would look at her and notice that she fixes her hair and clothes before we walk by each other. She'd look at me and I'd look at her with a smirk on my face. This happens several times already.

Today, I saw her in the library. I noticed that she's sitting with her friend when I walked in to check for a room. As I am checking for a room, I turned around and started walking to my room. As I am walking, I tend to look at everybody. I noticed she moved all the way to one of the computer seats. I don't know how the hell she moved so quick over but w/e. I took a glance at her and noticed she's pretending to type while keep staring at me, like 5+ seconds.

After a couple hours. I got up n went to the bathroom to take a wizz. I came back and checked if she's still around. I saw nobody in the seat she was sitting in there. As I am looking around, I saw her standing at some other spot just staring straight at me. I looked at her with kind of a suprise face while laughing inside and went into my room.

I am thinking of introducing myself to her the next time I see her. I don't know if she got a man or not, cuz I see her walking with this dude. I think he's her ride, since she's a foreigner. They don't seem to be holding hands or showing boyfriend/girlfriend body language. I'm gonna go for it anyway, she doesn't even seem attracted to the dude by her body language.

My game is uber LAME so I had to describe everything in detail so maybe you guys could give me a few pointers to go about this. Thanks ya'll :yes:
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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LoneWolf said:
so you want to... cheat?
The horror!

Do what you like man, it's your life.
Ask for getting this girl, it sounds pretty damn easy. She's practically stalking you. Just talk to her and ask if she want to hang out some time. Reread the bible if you need concrete advice.
 

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Why you guys act like it's a bad thing that I'm doing this? I feel like I'm still young and got a lot to learn. I don't feel like being committed to just one. That's just me though.


Chickfight said:
The horror!

Do what you like man, it's your life.
Ask for getting this girl, it sounds pretty damn easy. She's practically stalking you. Just talk to her and ask if she want to hang out some time. Reread the bible if you need concrete advice.
Ye, that's what I am thinking of doing. But the thing is, I am not sure where to hang out. I'm thinking of either mini golf, pool, or something else. I suck at both LOL, but I aint gonna let that stop me from trying to teach her how to play lol.

BTW: Is there a specific thing I should read in the bible? Seems to much to read. *shrugs*
 

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at least dump your girlfriend. if you don't want to commit then be single again :) cheating is weak and nasty.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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sozzz said:
Why you guys act like it's a bad thing that I'm doing this? I feel like I'm still young and got a lot to learn. I don't feel like being committed to just one. That's just me though.
It's not inherently bad. It's childish and blaringly amateurish to keep one girl on the dangle while you're trying to hook another bird.

If there's one slice of advice pie you eat it's this: Be honest. Be honest with yourself, your intentions, and especially with your women.

I have two women I'm seeing right now. They both know about each other's presences in my life. They don't have to stay with me. They're free to walk out my door and never look back.

That's the allure of a man. I'm the antithesis of the clingy he-b!tch. If the chick wants to do something else, go. I'll never bar her from serving her own interests. These two know of each other, but I never talk about the other when I'm spending time with one.

If you have any self-respect whatsoever, be up front with your intentions with your girlfriend. You'll find they're more accommodating with what you want (they shouldn't have any say-so in your decisions anyway) if you tell them, rather than ask them.
 

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KarmaSutra said:
It's not inherently bad. It's childish and blaringly amateurish to keep one girl on the dangle while you're trying to hook another bird.

If there's one slice of advice pie you eat it's this: Be honest. Be honest with yourself, your intentions, and especially with your women.

I have two women I'm seeing right now. They both know about each other's presences in my life. They don't have to stay with me. They're free to walk out my door and never look back.

That's the allure of a man. I'm the antithesis of the clingy he-b!tch. If the chick wants to do something else, go. I'll never bar her from serving her own interests. These two know of each other, but I never talk about the other when I'm spending time with one.

If you have any self-respect whatsoever, be up front with your intentions with your girlfriend. You'll find they're more accommodating with what you want (they shouldn't have any say-so in your decisions anyway) if you tell them, rather than ask them.
I know what you mean. I'm not aiming to be in a relationship with this new chick. I just wanna date her once and see how she is. If she is the type I like, then I'll tell my current girl that we should cut off. I thought we as guys should explore and go for the highest quality? What happen to dating more than one girls and stuff?
 

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i guess that's okay now that you mention it that way. but as soon as you hit it off with another girl, you better tell your girlfriend :)
 

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Would asking a girl out the first time you guys talk to be weird? I don't think it's weird. I just wanna hear what you guys think? If so, how should asking her out dialogue go? Just curious.
 

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You ain't married so you ain't buried.

If you want a "trial run" on this new broad, do it. Try it out and see if she's worth your time.

But re-read my 1st post if you're thinking of going long-term with both at the same time.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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