"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Dating someone very similar to you
- Thread starter Crissco
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Not in your hobbies as much as your passion for life. If you're ambitious as **** and hell-bent on accomplishing a lot in your life don't get a girl who's dream is to be a stay at home mom in the countryside.
I just finally met a dream girl who's as smart as me (we got the same ACT score, hahaha) and ambitious and driven and I'm falling for her, you absolutely want someone like you.
Crissco
Master Don Juan
Oh and man up, getting hurt is part of life. With greater highs comes lower lows, crank up the intensity and live a little.
Crissco
Master Don Juan
Exactly what I do.sirBill said:haha I've been most successful just not talking about the relationship with the girl. Religion is a non-issue these days for most people. Just smile as she says all this nonsense and go back to bed with her.
Oh and man up, getting hurt is part of life. With greater highs comes lower lows, crank up the intensity and live a little.
Comon sense its part of life bro, I was to tell u my sh*t ude probably drop dead from the sh*t ive been through. Different story different time.
Maybe im taking this the wrong way with this chick. Dont know, it all comes back to me thinking she still doesnt trust me fully and doesnt want to get hurt.
Plus since the begging we told eachother this would be strictly physically. No emotional connection.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Never listen to what a girl says, judge her by her actions. If she does anything you want and is regularly fvcking your brains out, then she loves you.
Give her the security, but little by little, and have patience.
Crissco
Master Don Juan
Thats what I thought, wasnt fully sure though. Now she just texts me, sorry if i was pushing u last night. Funny part is, she didnt push me at all. Physically yea but we were playing around laughing.Cherokee said:If she says she doesn't trust you fully, chances are she does... and now she wants your security.
Never listen to what a girl says, judge her by her actions. If she does anything you want and is regularly fvcking your brains out, then she loves you.
Give her the security, but little by little, and have patience.
I was pushing more then her, im thinking she wants me to react to her game bc i was being a bit more pushy then her bc she was on her period.(didnt believe her and i even checked, yes sick fu*k lol).\
Crissco
Master Don Juan
Thank You for all your responses. I know to judge a women by her actions not her words. A couple of things get to me though.
1. When I overide her logical thinking and put her in her emotional state, she says she likes me a lot, loves spending with me and feels very relaxing around me, which is a good thing.
Twice she skipped events to stay with me for 5 hours. One being her best friends grandmas wake.
2. When I mention dating in general, she says get that out of your head were not gonna date, we are too similar.
3. Shes a big gammer and doesnt let up, its to the point of almost annoying.
4. I get sick of her after 3 hours but still enjoy spending time with her.
5. She said she was sexual abused as a child, I didn't believe it at first until I make her c*m, bc according to her it sparks memories. She lays there and trys to get that thoughts out her head. If she wouldn't of told me that, I never would of guessed it bc shes very strong willed.
Part of me still doesnt believe it. Bc the first time I fingered her she came instantly then mauled me without a thought. lol
comic_relief
Master Don Juan
In general knowledge (for example, college majors) HELL NO!
If you choose someone in the same field, it becomes more competition than a relationship (maybe an overgeneralization but I definitely see it all the time).
Right now, I am dating a biology/geology major while I am poli-sci major. We always have stuff to talk about with each other on different levels. Just make sure she is interesting
comic_relief
Master Don Juan
In general knowledge (for example, college majors) HELL NO!
If you choose someone in the same field, it becomes more competition than a relationship (maybe an overgeneralization but I definitely see it all the time).
Right now, I am dating a biology/geology major while I am poli-sci major. We always have stuff to talk about with each other on different levels. Just make sure she is interesting
- comic_relief
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Crissco
Master Don Juan
We both dont know to college(Jobs are complete opposite though), our similirites are more on the general side. Not that we like all the same things but out mindsets are similar. Both a bit crazy, kinky, at the same time very shap brains, quick thinkers, I think we'd make a better team overall then a relashionshiop....still its a bit confusing to me since I was never really in an actually relashionship, I just ***** around once or twice, sometimes three times a week..comic_relief said:In passions, yes.
In general knowledge (for example, college majors) HELL NO!
If you choose someone in the same field, it becomes more competition than a relationship (maybe an overgeneralization but I definitely see it all the time).
Right now, I am dating a biology/geology major while I am poli-sci major. We always have stuff to talk about with each other on different levels. Just make sure she is interesting
Now that's an interesting question, what to do when a potential partner is very religious.Crissco said:Thats what I thought. This girls a big gamer. She said last night we'd never work out for 1. Her religion and 2. bc where 2 similar. Funny part is I override her emotions like crazy and get her to do anything I want in bed. When it comes to relashionships shes scared....Im starting to fall for her and honestly dont want to bc im afraid of getting hurt.
I believe women want men who give them an exciting time on dates, and who will make good providers. Personality, economy, friends, looks decide these things. If you do your best to be high-quality, then MOST women will adapt to you. Who needs religion when you have a strong man to lean on? For most women, it fades away when they are provided with security in a more tangible way. Especially if they are intelligent.
Most religious people annoy me, they wear values like a fashion, kind of like people who wave flags on fashionable events ("bin Ladin is dead!") but would never help out around the neighborhood. It also seems that many who join and are very active, just want to fill a hole in their life. They know that organized religion is always looking for members. Voilà, insta-friendship and recognition. Lots of patting on your back and friendly smiles, just for showing up.
But when it comes to how they act. I have known church-going guys who are absolutely disgusting about women.
"So our belief is that we need to be respectful and always serve ... ****, look at the ass on that one! I'd love to get a piece of that! ... serve the Lord and be good to our fellow man ... Look, she's bending over the table! ... because these values are more important now than ever. Let me borrow your phone, I wanna take a picture!"
I'm more "Christian" than most Christians I know. How many of them would go out of their way to help a man with his bags at the train station or give up their seat on the bus? Not many.
That said, I have had two girlfriends who came from families where the mother was Christian. The feel-good kind of Christian, putting up notes on the walls in the bathroom about how God is going to make this a great day for you. Both these girls were good people to be around. There is something to be said for a decent upbringing - you could do a lot worse than religious folks. One of the girls, the most intelligent one, hated anything that had to do with church, because she had been forced to go there as a kid. The other had some lingering religion in her, which faded away when she was with me. She didn't need it anymore.